Pro-Life? How are you helping adoption?

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Registered: 01-26-2009
Pro-Life? How are you helping adoption?
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Mon, 04-27-2009 - 2:30pm

Hi,
I live in Kansas and I'm usually on the adoption boards. However, I accidentally found this debate board and I would like to pose a question. I have such a hard time understanding the Pro-Life movement when the US and each individual state demostrate such broken adoption laws/procedures/agencies. There are agencies in the state that are VERY pro-life and say that they will help find resources, etc. for mothers but they do not follow through. Also, those same agencies will not help adoptive families network with these mothers because they believe that the biological family is the only option (regardless of lacking resources, support, etc.).
Why is that?
If the Pro-Life movement would put 1/4 of the effort they demonstrate regularly at protests, court cases, etc., on adoption reform, we'd have a great system that would work for every mother, every situation.

Just though I'd throw that out there... Saying, "Just Adopt" isn't that easy, from my experience.

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Mon, 04-27-2009 - 6:13pm

no PLers I know IRL say just adopt. Of course we also don't waste out time picketing. Abortion is far more complex than simply abort/adopt and to view it that way totally overlooks the fact that paternal consent is necessary for adoption, that most women are unable to give a born child away and that it is healthy white infants that are in demand and not all pregnancies will deliver a HWI

For myself personally I intend to adopt after we are done having bio children or if it turns out we can't have more bio-children. I also spend a great deal of time talking to women who are having unplaneed pregnancies and try to help those who don't want tpo abort find viable alternatives (be it adoption or a means of supporting said child)

Mostly though I concentrate my efforts on preventing unplanned pregnancy in the first place.

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Thu, 04-30-2009 - 6:11pm

I stumbeled onto this debate. Abortion is not a black and white choice. Every individual needs to make an individual choice based on their individual situation.

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Registered: 01-15-2008
Thu, 04-30-2009 - 6:18pm

<<On that note to. If your desprate for a baby and adoption is the route that you take you shouldn't be picky...black,white, healthy or sick. You shoudl take the first baby they bring to you.


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Fri, 05-01-2009 - 12:39am

Hi and welcome to the board :)


Not to argue, but I wanted to address this point:


"...healthy or sick. You shoudl take the first baby they bring to you.

Kate

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Registered: 01-26-2009
Fri, 05-01-2009 - 2:01pm

I beleive that every baby born into this world has the right to have parental love. They did not make the choices for their mothers so why should they be looked over because of it.

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Registered: 01-26-2009
Fri, 05-01-2009 - 8:50pm

From experience, I can tell you that there are plenty of adoptive parents who are grateful for any kind of child. There are parents looking for babies of all colors, all abilities and all backgrounds. My husband and I have little restrictions on the adoption we're pursuing and we've been waiting 16 months because the adoption process in the US and many states is just broken. That's why I asked this question. Also, I live in Kansas, where there is a lot of press about abortion (George Tiller, MD, Operation Rescue, Central Christian Church and other church picketing, etc.).

So. Thank you for this discussion. You have answered my question.
Best wishes to all, Tiffany

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Fri, 05-01-2009 - 11:47pm
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I beleive that every baby born into this world has the right to have parental love. They did not make the choices for their mothers so why should they be looked over because of it.


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Mon, 05-04-2009 - 7:49pm

<Why is that?>>

Well, I can tell you that you need to consider the bio mom's side of the story. Until recent years, many unmarried white women were forced to give up their baby - or even had their babies literally stolen from them. Just because a woman is single and poor does not mean she is unfit to be a mom. Many parents are poor, many parents are single...doesn't mean they should have their babies taken from them. Many people become anti-adoption when they realize the truth behind how many babies are put on the adoption market. Some agencies would rather try to give support to the birth mom, rather than take her baby away from her. Believe it or not, most moms want to keep their babies.

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Mon, 05-04-2009 - 8:18pm

"Until recent years, many unmarried white women were forced to give up their baby - or even had their babies literally stolen from them."


Do you have anything to back this up? I'd be very interested to read about babies stolen from their mothers as I've never come across anything like that before.


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Mon, 05-04-2009 - 8:38pm
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