Rationalizing "Killing a child"

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Rationalizing "Killing a child"
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Tue, 01-13-2009 - 12:02pm

I should probably be shot for even bringing this up for debate......but I've known most of you guys for a while and I feel safe here for the most part..oddly safer then on any other board here even the so called *support* boards.


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Thu, 01-22-2009 - 8:37am
n/t
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Wed, 01-21-2009 - 2:05pm

Thanks!!!

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Wed, 01-21-2009 - 2:05pm
How heart breaking for you.
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Wed, 01-21-2009 - 2:04pm
I love your new siggy. Are they identical trips?
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Wed, 01-21-2009 - 1:15pm
No problem. He was a micro preemie, 16 weeks early, shortly after birth he had a grade 4 IVH (brain hemorrhage that literally destroyed one whole side of his brain). Fortunately he seemed to be coping with that fine for about 9 weeks and was coming off most of his life support and meds. Then for reasons unknown he experienced massive liver failure and developed NEC (an illness that kills your bowels common for preemies in the first 5 weeks). In a span of three days he went from talk of being out of the woods to having passed away and we still have no clear answers as to why.
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Wed, 01-21-2009 - 1:10pm

It does still bother me that abortions happen, I will not lie about that.

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Mon, 01-19-2009 - 4:50pm

((((Misa))))

What happened to your DS, if it's ok to ask? I think we may have talked about this before but I have no brain...




Edited 1/19/2009 5:45 pm ET by lianne_67
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Mon, 01-19-2009 - 4:49pm

Exactly. There is a massive difference between loving the idea of someone and loving the actual person once they're really there.

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Mon, 01-19-2009 - 2:36pm

>>I can say with confidence that losing him now (at 2mos old) would be very much more painful than losing him before birth. Everyone is entitled to feel differently of course, but this is my take on it based on my feelings towards my zygote, embryo, fetus and baby. <<

I agree. In my experience the easiest loss for me was at 5 weeks because I hadn't had time to get used to the idea of the pregnancy. my second trimester loss felt like part of my soul was ripped out because by that point I had invested so much of myself in the pregnancy there was no way it would not change me on a fundamental level. Even that didn't prepare me though for when I lost DS2 at 10 weeks. It was a whole nother ball game then and part of me died that day that will never come back.

I am not saying any of my losses were easy but the degree of loss experience for me was worlds apart. It is like comparing a papercut to an amputation.

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Sun, 01-18-2009 - 4:00pm

Understood.

Kate

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