The right to know baby's gender

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-07-2008
The right to know baby's gender
50
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 1:49pm

I am new to this message board, but would love to hear your suggestions/opinions on this subject.


Our family is suffering during this economic crisis, just like so many other families. Personally, I felt as if I was so alone & that my life was slowly falling apart. I cried out to the Lord to guide me, to strengthen me spiritually, and to show me what road He felt I should follow. I soon received my answer, and the doors have slowly begun to open. To save the unborn. To reach out to women who are being faced with an unwanted pregnancy. By God's grace, He is showing me how to do this.


I am currently working alongside an FDA cleared company which offers a product that can determine the gender of a child as early as 8 weeks gestation. I feel this could clearly be beneficial to mothers considering abortion/adoption/parenting.


I have visited with several pregnancy clinics (pro-life), but they said they choose not to ever share the childs gender under any circumstance to anyone who walks in their clinic.


I feel that if a woman knows the potential sex of her child, this could create a huge impact on her decision. And, I feel the impact would be positive.


I feel this

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-13-2004
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 2:34pm

If a woman has come to the decision that aborting is the best choice for her and her family, I don't see how knowing if it has a penis or vagina is going to solve the issues that led to abortion being the best choice for her.


I can see how it humanizes it and may make some women consider their choice, but for many women it wouldn't change any circumstances that would need to be changed for her to carry the child to term.


I have no idea the number of women who get abortions that have no idea it is potential and/or life, so I don't know how many women this would help.


iVillage Member
Registered: 08-07-2008
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 2:47pm

But, what about a woman who doesn't know what to choose, and has not decided whether to carry or abort?


I know most pro-life clinics give women the option of having a sonogram, to show them fetal heart tones, and that there is something growing inside of them.


But, what if they have a sonogram & see this tiny heart beating knowing it's their son's/daughter's heat that is beating. Not just their "baby's" heartbeat.


I agree sonograms can humanize this experience, but we all know at 8 weeks, other than a tiny blip on the screen of a heart beating, you can't tell it's a human being. That's why knowing the gender could change the way these women look at their situation. The way they look at that little "blip" on the screen.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-07-2008
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 3:26pm
I don't think forcing a woman to find out the gender because she was going to have an abortion would help. I imagine in a house with lots of same sex sibs in one room and space in the opposite gender's room could seal the deal if the gender was the same as the majority sibs. Not always but it's possible.
cat
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2008
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 5:13pm

<>

It could also have a negative impact.

If a family has...say 2 girls and knows financially they can only afford 3 children and desperately wants a boy...and then baby #3 is a girl and they know this at 8 weeks they very well might abort in favor of *trying again* for a boy.

Photobucket
PhotobucketPhotobucketPhotobucketPhotobucketPhotobucketPhotobucketPhotobucketPhotobucketPhotobucket

Powered by CGISpy.com
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-10-2008
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 6:08pm

~I have visited with several pregnancy clinics (pro-life), but they said they choose not to ever share the childs gender under any circumstance to anyone who walks in their clinic.~


Have they told you why?


There are cultures which for various reasons favour having a son over a daughter.

Kate

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-07-2008
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 6:12pm

<>


Maybe I have misled you all or missed the point.


This is a test that should only be offered at a pregnancy crisis center. And, it should only be given to a woman who is on the fence/undecided as to whether to have an abortion or not.


I have 3 boys, and I would love to have a girl. If I got pregnant with our 4th child, and went into a pregnancy crisis center asking to know the gender of this child, which in turn would determine whether or not I wanted to terminate the pregnancy, then NO, I should not be offered a test.


The majority of these

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-07-2008
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 6:15pm

Well, I agree there are some cultures who choose one gender over another. This is not a test that should be given to them under any circumstance.


These clinics can't tell the gender until 16+ weeks or so. Most of these girls who come in, come in for 1 visit (pregnancy test) and that's it. They usually don't come back as they do not provide OB care. So, partially they don't tell them the gender because the doctors can't even tell yet.


Another reason is because some of the women who come in say their boyfriend wants a certain sex. Well, in that case, I agree, don't offer the test.


But, for the woman who is on the fence, why not let her know??

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-10-2008
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 6:50pm

nm.

Kate

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-10-2008
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 6:54pm

nm, see my post below



Kate

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-15-2008
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 7:06pm

Most clinics won't tell women the sex

Pages