The right to know baby's gender

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Registered: 08-07-2008
The right to know baby's gender
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 1:49pm

I am new to this message board, but would love to hear your suggestions/opinions on this subject.

Our family is suffering during this economic crisis, just like so many other families. Personally, I felt as if I was so alone & that my life was slowly falling apart. I cried out to the Lord to guide me, to strengthen me spiritually, and to show me what road He felt I should follow. I soon received my answer, and the doors have slowly begun to open. To save the unborn. To reach out to women who are being faced with an unwanted pregnancy. By God's grace, He is showing me how to do this.

I am currently working alongside an FDA cleared company which offers a product that can determine the gender of a child as early as 8 weeks gestation. I feel this could clearly be beneficial to mothers considering abortion/adoption/parenting.

I have visited with several pregnancy clinics (pro-life), but they said they choose not to ever share the childs gender under any circumstance to anyone who walks in their clinic.

I feel that if a woman knows the potential sex of her child, this could create a huge impact on her decision. And, I feel the impact would be positive.

I feel this

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Registered: 10-06-2010
Sat, 01-17-2009 - 6:08pm
Well, yes, I mean obviously the fetus is going to become have a sex, it is not going to be a sexless being for its life. My point was I am not sure why that would change anyone's mind.
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Registered: 08-15-2008
Sat, 01-17-2009 - 10:39pm

I'm not sure either.

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Registered: 12-10-2008
Sun, 01-18-2009 - 5:27am

~This test is quite ethically questionable in my book.~

From USA Today:

Bianchi and Kathy Hudson, director of the Genetics and Public Policy Center in Washington, D.C., note that no government agency regulates the tests, so there's no quality control.

"These tests sort of shine a spotlight on inadequacies across the whole area of genetic tests," Hudson says.

Even if the tests were highly accurate, she says, "the question is: How are people going to use that information? I think it would be troubling if people were selectively terminating pregnancies based on the gender."

Jesse Reynolds, a policy analyst at the Center for Genetics and Society in Oakland, argues that "there are sex-selective abortions throughout the world. We shouldn't simply dismiss this as a problem that's 'over there.' "

~I wonder if they are selling it in China yet.~

Yes, they can be ordered online.


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Registered: 04-10-2003
Sun, 01-18-2009 - 3:43pm


My 4th pregnancy resulted in my 2nd miscarriage. I had a D&C since my uterus never willingly gives up, LOL. During that time the hospital tested the fetal remains as they were doing a study, and along with finding out the fetus had Tristan 16 (incompatible with sustained pregnancy and life outside the womb) they also determined it was a female fetus. This was a VERY wanted pregnancy. Yet, it was a fetus then, a fetus after the miscarriage and I do not count it in with the 4 children I have birth to. I have miscarried 2 fetuses. Blobs of tissue more akin to shrimp cocktail than the delivered babies the other 4 became.
So no, the knowledge of gender will not necessarily *humanize a pregnancy* for a PCer. Even one who's pregnant happily.


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Registered: 05-02-2006
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 12:50pm


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 4:40pm

I think the crisis pregnancy centers would be better served by ACTUALLY PROVIDING CARE and not just trying to talk women into continuing pregnancies. Seriously, wouldn't they have better luck in making their argument if they could say, if you decide to continue this pregnancy, we'll help with your medical expenses, even provide you with free OB care.

Instead, they focus on trying to convince these women to make decisions but without giving them the safety net they might need. Heck, Planned Parenthood helps women REGARDLESS of the decision they make.

The 3 Day

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 5:10pm

"Heck, Planned Parenthood helps women REGARDLESS of the decision they make."

Sheesh, how could they be so vile!

"It is right to be contented with what we have, but never with what we are."

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Registered: 12-13-2004
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 1:00pm

There are some places that do this. I am pro-choice but our church donates time, money and items to a center. I volunteered to give rides to the women to the doctor appointments as we all did.

They were given a place to live (group home type thing) until their child is 1. Medicaid pays for the pregnancy and the child. Free healthy meals are provided as well as free items for the baby such as a crib, stroller, clothes etc.

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Registered: 11-20-2008
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 2:20pm

I am curious why you titled this thread "The right to know baby's gender".

This does not seem to be an issue of parent's right to know, but a tool for you to use to persuade a woman to NOT abort. So why did you title this thread along the lines of a "right to know" ?

As far as I know, any couple who desires to know in advance the sex of their child may have a sonogram done and find out. Except for financial barriers, I know of no other roadblocks to this supposed "right".

And as many posters have pointed out, knowing the gender might influence more women TOWARDS having an abortion than against one.

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Registered: 11-20-2008
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 2:42pm

I have a problem with these clinics also.

Back when I was single, I took a friend to a so called "Crisis Pregnancy" clinic. She had no idea that they were actually in the business of talking women out of abortions.

Actually, she was planning on keeping her child if she was pg, but being young, single, and financially struggling, she thought she could get some sort of real help there. I went with her as moral support. As it turns out, there were NO medical personell there, just pro-lifers and "counselors" with store bought home pregnancy tests.

After she took her test, they let us both go in the "counseling room" to wait for the test results. They asked my friend what she intended to do, and she said she was going to keep the baby. The counselor got very excited and said it was great that she was going to keep the child. She then said something to the effect of "I assume you are pro-life" and my friend responded with something along the lines of "I support other women's right to choice, but keeping this baby is the right choice for me, even tho' it will be difficult.". The woman then said, "I will be back with your results, here's an educational video I would like you to watch". Well the "educational" video was actually an anti-abortion video, that was full of bogus information. So it wasn't enough that my friend was planning on keeping her child, they decided she needed to be misinformed about abortion, since she was politically incorrect about it.

She also expressed concern that she had gone off accutane six months prior to her possible conception, and the "counselor" quipped that accutane doesn't REALLY cause birth defects, that this is just something doctors say to cover themselves in the event of a lawsuit. (Accutane certainly DOES cause birth defects if taken during pregnancy ! )

What a load of hogwash. I have no respect for these types of clinics after that experience.

It turns out my friend wasn't pregnant.