Sad real life PBA story

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Sad real life PBA story
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Thu, 10-25-2007 - 11:01pm

I don't know the medical term for a PBA or I'd be using it -- and had never really heard first hand of a case where one would be medically necessary. however, a co worker of mine, just had to have one at 7 months.


She had to fly to Europe to get it done.


She found out two weeks ago that the baby had no brain activity. The DRs here in the states told her her options were to continue and carry to term, or until she went into labor, and deliver a basically vegitative baby. They checked and checked and there was literally ZERO brain activity. Because she was 7 months -- her only option was to fly overseas and get a PBA. She is devestated.


Now surely, even someone who is PL would understand how tragic this situation is and allow a woman in this situation to abort? Just disgraceful, not to mention medically dangerous given she was on a flight back to the US two days later (!!), that she had to fly overseas to have this done. God we are a backward country in so many ways.

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Fri, 10-26-2007 - 8:22am
I feel so bad for that poor woman. Like her I would not want to deliver a child who was in a vegative state unless euthanasia was legal in which case I would do it knowing a dignified death was available. Honestly situations like this need to be considered when legislation is being passed. Quality of life is IMO just as if not more important than quantity of life.



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Fri, 10-26-2007 - 8:50am
That poor woman. It's just senseless that doctors in the U.S. couldn't help her out. What's the point of having to carry and deliver a brain-dead baby to full-term?

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Fri, 10-26-2007 - 10:56am

<<That poor woman. It's just senseless that doctors in the U.S. couldn't help her out. What's the point of having to carry and deliver a brain-dead baby to full-term?>>


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Fri, 10-26-2007 - 11:34am

As much as I am a advocate for organ donation, that's still not a valid reason to deny a woman the choice to abort such a pregnancy.


Besides, forcing her to gestate and deliver such a pregnancy doesn't mean she can be compelled to donate the organs.


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Fri, 10-26-2007 - 12:19pm
LOL Ok...yes obviously FORCING a woman to carry to term for the baby to be an organ donor...BAD IDEA....but some women will CHOSE to carry babies to term who are brain dead so that the babies can be organ donors...and the question was basically ( and I'm paraphrasing) " what's the point of keeping vegitative babies alive to carry to term" ...one * point* would be a woman and families CHOICE to have thier tragedy turn into someone elses miracle by donating thier babies organs.
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Fri, 10-26-2007 - 12:39pm
I see - we interpreted the original question differently!


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Fri, 10-26-2007 - 12:43pm
The entire story is really brutal too. Two friends of mine were coming back from an event in Chicago, and just happened to run into her in the security line at OHare. She basically collapsed and was hysterical. They all missed their flights, and the other two went with her on a later flight back home. Her DH had been home taking care of their 4 year old, she had flown ALONE to Europe; had the procedure; and flew back to the US two days later alone. Ugh. I'm 37.5 weeks pregnant. I was heartbroken to hear this story. its just brutal....and compound that by having to travel internationally to get somewhere she could deal with this with dignity and safely. ugh ugh ugh.
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Fri, 10-26-2007 - 12:46pm
I'm a very big fan of organ donation but in this case? Come on.
They should have allowed her to terminate this pregnancy in the US --- the child had zero brain function. None.
Imagine being forced to carry to term (she was 28 weeks when she had the procedure...3 more months!!!?).
No organ donation is NO reason to force someone to carry to term.
This is such a horribly brutal situation. No easy answer but she should have been able to deal with this here not in Europe -- away from her family, etc.
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Fri, 10-26-2007 - 12:48pm

I know its just too sad. I'm pregnant too (37.5 weeks) and this story just floored me when I heard it Wed afternoon. I can't imagine how she feels.


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Fri, 10-26-2007 - 12:55pm

And can you imagine having to deal with the passer-by chit chat?


Oh - when are you due! Is it a boy or a girl? Do you have names picked out?


Ugh.


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