So maybe I am pro-CHILD

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Registered: 02-24-2005
So maybe I am pro-CHILD
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Tue, 09-09-2008 - 8:33am

I did a lot of thinking after the debate that ensued yesterday afternoon.

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Registered: 06-17-2008
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 9:27am

Welcome to the board!

We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures. 

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Registered: 02-24-2005
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 9:37am

I guess it's just one of those situations where we will have to agree to disagree!


I firmly feel that abortion is used as birth control way to often and should not be.

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Registered: 12-13-2004
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 9:40am

You would be suprised at how many people agree with you. Many people who are pro-choice are pro-life for themselves, would never terminate a pregnancy and do not agree with the choice but also understand it isn't right to force pregnancy on a woman that cannot, will not, want to continue the pregnancy.


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Registered: 12-13-2004
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 9:52am

I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but it would be hard for me to say that a lot of abortions are done as birth control. Abortions are not cheap, it would be much cheaper to get an IUD than an abortion, not to mention several abortions. BC can be quite free at planned parenthood (as a college student I would get a year supply of pills in a bag for about $10).


The shot is pretty effective, as is an IUD. The pill is so fickle that it is good but not great. I owe my existance to it's failure. There are effective BC methods but no method will ever be 100% and that is why abortion will never become obsolete. The hope is to make it safe so women are not dying in back ally's. Abortion has been with us since the beginning of time, women will always be in a place that having a child would be horrific for some reason or another.


The pro-life segment of society would serve the community better with ways to make pregnancy less common, especially to young women by providing BC. The best way to stop an abortion is to prevent a pregnancy.


Also, in dealing with teen moms I know a big part of the problem is that young teen girls are growing up in an increasingly hostile world. I know from experience that when the love from my parents wasn't up to par the very first thing I did was cleave to a boy to love me. At that young age I didn't have the skills are experience to pick a good man, and with my defecits of love and abuse actually picked the worst choice. I had sex with him because I loved him, but mostly because I needed love. I hate to bring things back to family values, especially because that term means different things to different people, but I also think that a lot of

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Registered: 05-06-2007
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 9:59am
Actually, doctor visits, deliveries, etc. bring in FAR more money than abortions, so giving birth is actually more of a money making industry than abortion is.

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Registered: 06-17-2008
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 9:59am

WRT your last paragraph:

We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures. 

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Registered: 10-06-2010
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 10:06am

I just wanted to say, not all girls that are having sex at 16 or under are "hurting" or need to be helped. I had sex at 15 and I was in no way hurting or needed to be helped. I had two parents that loved me, a great home to live in, pets to love, friends. I did well in school, was never in trouble and had a great relationship with my parents.

I had sex because I loved my boyfriend. It wasn't to keep him or to be cool or to fit in. I did it because I wanted to. I am married to him now and we are very happy.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-13-2004
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 10:27am
Ack! I am usually good about not making blanket statements. A lot of girls under 16. Let me go back and edit.
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Registered: 06-17-2008
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 10:39am
I do get that.

We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures. 

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Registered: 12-13-2004
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 10:51am

As long as she is having sex for the right reasons I wouldn't be worried as long as she understands birth control and the impact sex may have in the event of a breakup at that age (as young girls we want what serith had and it is hard when that doesn't happen).


As much as I don't want to think about my children someday having sex, I also realize that it is normal and healthy if they do it for the right reasons, love not lust, or as boys, to fit in. I hope to get them to a more mature age before they engage in activity but it isn't up to me. I just hope I can give them the background and respect for sex that they need.

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