So very interesting...

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Registered: 04-14-2003
So very interesting...
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Tue, 06-03-2003 - 6:50pm
I just wandered over here today and feel like I must say something.

I am 100% pro-life. If I were to get pregnant (I'm an unmarried 24 year old female who DOES NOT want a baby), I would without a doubt carry that baby to term and give birth to it. Why? Because I got pregnant and I whether I like it or not, I have to suffer the consequences of my actions. I figure I have two choices to determine those consequences... I can give birth or I can terminate the pregnancy. Because I am pro-life I would choose to give birth. Now, I do not like the idea of anyone else doing any differently, but who am I to demand that someone else make the same decision as I just because I think I'm right? I would imagine that anyone who has ever had to make that decision and who has opted to terminate thier pregnancy suffered their consequences as well. I could not imagine the emotions that a woman experiences when having an abortion. She made her choice, just as I would make mine. I'm sure having an abortion does not go without its consequences. My heart goes out to all the women that have had to make that decision for them and their unborn babies.

So anyway... I guess what I'm saying is that I would never want anyone telling me what to do with my body and I'll never think that I am so wise as to tell another woman what to do with hers. I would encourage any woman that I know to not have an abortion, but isn't it ultimately her burden to bear? That's what's so great about this country, isn't it? We can make our own decisions and then deal with the consequences of those decisions, beit good or bad.

Clown FishKendra

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-03-2003 - 7:28pm
Hi...I think what you're saying is that for *you* you're prolife, but really you're prochoice. Is that what you meant?
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 06-03-2003 - 8:23pm
Or an anti-abortion pro-choicer...of which there are many. You're totally right, california...

Being pro-choice doesn't necessarily mean that you support abortion or that you'd have one yourself...just that you respect another's right to make her own decision.

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Tue, 06-03-2003 - 9:24pm
Yeah... I guess I'm also saying that I don't understand why people get so uptight about things that are none of their business. I mean, trust me... I shutter when I think of someone having an abortion... I think it's wrong, but I guess until I've walked a mile in their shoes, I should keep my nose in my own business. I do not want to walk that mile and pray that I never do. I guess I figure that I'll sin my sins and you'll sin yours. I can tell you what I believe is right and you can give me your opinions. Ultimately it's between me and God and you and your higher power the end. No one is going to have to answer to me and I feel comfortable knowing that I didn't hurt anyone in the process. I understand that we're talking about human life here, but unless its my human life, I don't think it's my business.

Clown FishKendra

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Tue, 06-03-2003 - 10:08pm
Makes perfect sense and I think alot of people see it that way....not that they agree with abortion, but that it's none of their business what other people do.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 06-03-2003 - 10:32pm
Well... frankly I wouldn't say you are pro-life. If you believe it should be up to the individual to make the decision, you are pro-choice... that's what it's all about. Many, many pro-choicers feel that they personally would not want an abortion. I am pro-life, and not usually the one to defend pro-choicers on this board (LOL), but pro-choice does not in any way EQUAL pro-abortion. Sure, the two can go hand in hand, but it's not necessary. Pro-life is believing that abortion is wrong for everyone.

As far as not telling people what they can't do with their own bodies... well we do that every day... seatbelt laws, helmet laws, public nudity laws, and so on and on... I also believe that a fetus is a separate life with the same right to life equal to that of the woman carrying it. In my view, it's not a matter of just one person's body - it's two bodies. And since the unborn cannot speak for themselves or defend themselves, it is up to society to speak for them, in my opinion.

-Deb