"Stop spreading your legs!"

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"Stop spreading your legs!"
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Mon, 04-16-2012 - 2:10pm

About 3.5 years ago, gespenst posted this thread:

http://forums.ivillage.com/t5/Abortion-Debates/If-I-hear-this-one-more-time/m-p/85526935/message-uid/85526935#U85526935

I'll throw out what I think are the most relevant tidbits of her argument:

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But telling married/committed women in their 20's, 30's, 40's and beyond that they shouldn't have sex unless they're willing to carry a baby to term?




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Registered: 10-11-2005
Mon, 04-16-2012 - 11:35pm

~~Sam stitches well with others, runs with scissors in her pocket. Cheerful and stupid.
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Registered: 01-24-2012
Tue, 04-17-2012 - 3:35pm

I don't think they should be expected to not have sex but it doesn't seem too much to ask that they at least use a condom if they're not ready to have a baby, married or not.

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Registered: 10-11-2005
Tue, 04-17-2012 - 4:27pm
jillybean458 wrote:

I don't think they should be expected to not have sex but it doesn't seem too much to ask that they at least use a condom if they're not ready to have a baby, married or not.

I had my tubes tyied when my youngest dd was born, I got pregnant two more times after that {miscarried both of them} I was using protection. Nothing is 100%.

~~Sam stitches well with others, runs with scissors in her pocket. Cheerful and stupid.
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Registered: 07-18-2006
Tue, 04-17-2012 - 4:33pm

What I find absurd is the assumption that every woman out there wants kids, ever. So, one should just be celibate their entire lives? Really? Sex is a normal, healthy part of life, and NO - if pregnancy is neither wanted nor desired, a woman should not be expected to just "go without". It's ridiculous.

In fact, the only time I would ever be tempted to use the "stop spreading your legs" argument is for the exact opposite - people who indiscriminantly pop out baby after baby without taking care of them. And even then, it's not so much a "stop spreading your legs" argument as a "why don't you use birth control, you idiot?" argument. Have all the sex you want, but don't bring kids into the world you can't take care of!

Angie

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Registered: 07-18-2006
Tue, 04-17-2012 - 4:37pm

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Sam, are you trying to give me a heart attack? :smileyhappy: I have heard about/read where this can happen but have never talked to anyone who actually HAD it happen. I got my tubes tied seven years ago and have nightmares about this! Were they tubal pregnancies? Those can kill you, am I right?

Angie

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Registered: 10-11-2005
Tue, 04-17-2012 - 5:33pm
imadesphousewife wrote:

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Sam, are you trying to give me a heart attack? :smileyhappy: I have heard about/read where this can happen but have never talked to anyone who actually HAD it happen. I got my tubes tied seven years ago and have nightmares about this! Were they tubal pregnancies? Those can kill you, am I right?

Angie

The OB/GYN that did my tubal, removed parts of the tube, but I'm super fertile {both of my parents come from huge families}

~~Sam stitches well with others, runs with scissors in her pocket. Cheerful and stupid.