Very discusted at my step sister!

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Registered: 10-05-2003
Very discusted at my step sister!
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Mon, 11-17-2003 - 11:41am
I found out about three days ago that my step sister made her 17 year old daughter abort. One reason was that my niece has a college scholarship and my sister told her that she would not help her in any way unless she aborted. SICKENING - the conditional love my PC step sister has for her daughter.

The second reason is because the child was going to be bi-racial. Again, SICK reason to take a human life. My niece is very traumatized over this and I blame no one but her mother. My step sister never has been and never will be pro family. This is the same person who stuck her nose up in the air adn told me "I could never walk away from my career. My children just have to understand that there are priorities in life - and this is mine!" It is a good thing that when she had the first, she was trying to trap her boyfriend into marriage. It is a good thing that she was trying to prevent him from divorcing her when she got pregnant the second time. Her children are not part of her heart, rather they were tools for her achieving her agenda.

Very sad and sick IMHO!

How many think that my step sister acted as a GOOD MOTHER to her daughter?

How many think that she (my step sister) was thinking of herself and not her daughter?

How many think that my step sister had no right in forcing her child into terminating a life?

How many think that she had every right to force her will to terminate electively upon my niece?

How many believe that denying your love to your child if they DON"T abort is just fine?

Personally, I would have thought a lot more of my step sister had she been suportive, loving and there for my niece. I would have thought a lot more of her if her love for my niece wasn't conditional and based upon what my niece did for her mother. Love is suposed to be selfless, not selfish.

A.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 11-17-2003 - 2:17pm

Sorry- perhaps you ought to go edit this post? http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-psabortdeb/?msg=1305.17
and this: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-psabortdeb&msg=1354.1&ctx, the response: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-psabortdeb&msg=1354.2
And the ecard as well at: http://view.greetings.yahoo.com/greet/view?627QY7FQ5I22T




Edited 11/17/2003 7:12:30 PM ET by cl-mferkul


Edited 11/17/2003 7:14:32 PM ET by cl-mferkul


Edited 11/17/2003 7:37:28 PM ET by cl-mferkul
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Registered: 10-05-2003
Mon, 11-17-2003 - 8:37pm
I don't know how to edit the ecard, and I already edited my posts to this board. Aren't you one who supports choice due to ACCIDENTS? Well, from time to time we ALL have them and sometimes we miss the little things, like not paying attention and accidently posting my name.

YOU DID IT TO BE ANTAGONISTIC! If not, what was the (()) about? You know, intent changes everything about an issue. Your intent was not respectfull in ANY, way, shape or form!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 11-17-2003 - 9:39pm

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Bull excrement. You need to take a chill pill and get over the paranoia. I have been on the boards

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2003
Mon, 11-17-2003 - 9:51pm
What is so funny?

I did apologize, what else do you want from me? I'd do about anything to get you to understand and accept my apology! I had no idea it was a hug, I've never, NEVER seen anyone use (()) as a hug. I am deeply and terribly sorry - I don't know what else to say to you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 11-17-2003 - 10:10pm
Maybe quit emailing me to tell me how malicious & wrong & spiteful I was to put your first name in a (((hug))) in a post to show you some support? <>
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Registered: 10-05-2003
Mon, 11-17-2003 - 11:36pm
You know what? DONE! I wash my hands of it.

A.

BTW: I thought this post was VERY tasteless. I have emailed you NO more than you have emailed me. If you are trying to deface or embarass me, it won't work.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-16-2003
Tue, 11-18-2003 - 7:41pm
Personally, I don't judge people based on my beleifs. Your step sister did what she thought was right whether you beleive it was or not. We all have our reasons for doing things that other's might not approve of. I doubt that you have been the model of perfection your entire life and that you have somewhere along the way done something that DISGHUSTED (note the spelling) someone at sometime. If by the off chance that you ARE perfect please let me know when you will next be walking on water, that is something I would truly like to see.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2003
Tue, 11-18-2003 - 7:55pm
It's funny when one mis-speller corrects another.

I asked you somewhere else but perhaps you have not seen it. You don't make a negative judgment of opinion on ANY choices that others make?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 11-18-2003 - 8:37pm
er...disgusted.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-11-2003
Tue, 11-18-2003 - 9:00pm
wow, you are really upset with you step-sister! and very judgemental. since none of us is involved in this family including YOU, what right do any of us including you have to pass judgement on this situation? were you actually physically present when these things occurred? or is this family gossip comint second, third and fourth hand like a game of telephone when we were kids in which the starting messsage has nothing to do with the ending message?

If this woman actually did force her underage child to have an abortion it was her choice to do so. I think it is reprehensible and wrond. but we PL cry about there being parental consent laws in place so that parents know about and can make decisions for their minor children reguarding abortion. Unfortunately we canot have it both ways. when a paretn makes a decision like this we all shudder and are horrified, but it was her parental decision to make. We cannot know what this girl is like, can we? personally, I think she was wrong and that if she was fully commited to her daughter and her daughters education then she should have been willing to do whatever it took if her daughter wanted to have and keep the baby to ensure that her daughter was able to continue her education. and blaming your step sister for for ALL of your neice's trauma is wrong. She brought some of this on herself. and she could have refused. if she ahd the free will to get pregnant she could ahve also ahd the freew ill to refuse the abortion. I just wonder what the whole story is here. ya' know? I know you ahve one take on it, but I do have to wonder at your step-sister's and her daughters.

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