walk a mile in my shoes, etc.

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walk a mile in my shoes, etc.
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Fri, 10-30-2009 - 2:26pm

here is a woman who understands that women/people in general who have NOT had an abortion have a lot to learn from women who have been there... btw still thinking about recent discussions, much to digest from that.

enjoy, a great blog all around!

aspenbaker.wordpress.com/2009/01/12/interview-with-pro-voice-activist-jennifer-baumgardner/

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"We have much courage for the abstract, but not for the concrete."
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Registered: 06-24-2009
Thu, 11-05-2009 - 1:34pm

Yes, I learned alot from my mother, who had an abortion. She does not regret it, though she felt loss at the time.

She says that she understood the difference between regret for the unplanned pregnancy itself, and any that she may have felt for a decision to limit the amount of damage and chaos in our family at that very painful time during a long a protracted divorce.

You might learn alot from her, and understand that each woman takes away what she brings to her decision. Perhaps the stakes were much clearer for her than they were for you, so there was less uncertainty for her about what the right decision was for her.

You might benefit alot from listening to her voice, if you are as open as you expect everyone else to be.

Have a great day!

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Wed, 11-04-2009 - 12:34am
Can I add in a baby with brain damage from lack of O2 and a nephew with CP from a in utero stroke?




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Tue, 11-03-2009 - 4:08pm

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Exactly. I've had two medically-necessary inductions. Both were pretty rough, but one was much worse than the other, in all aspects. I definitely needed to be induced in both cases, however. But I know lots and lots of other women who get induced for no good reason at all, and those are the kind of inductions that I'd like to see reduced in number.

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Tue, 11-03-2009 - 2:39pm
I think it is safe to say there is a time and a place for medical interventions, however, many of them are used much too often, and for the wrong reasons.
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Mon, 11-02-2009 - 10:26pm

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Mon, 11-02-2009 - 8:32pm

Nobody has mentioned Gestational Diabetes - mine wasn't too severe, I controlled it with just diet, but still!


Oh, and on the induction issue - I was induced with my first because of high blood pressure. Ok, fine. What they DIDN'T realize is that I couldn't dialate! I'd had a LEEP procedure several years before, which caused severe scarring on my cervix. By the time they figured this out, I'd been in labor TEN HOURS, and didn't even dialate to one.


My daughter by that time was in distress, at which time they did a C/S. She has autism, and I've long suspected that she didn't get enough oxygen during those ten hours I was on pitocin.

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Mon, 11-02-2009 - 9:36am
Yes! Come one, come all. It's really fun in here! ;O)
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Mon, 11-02-2009 - 8:54am
May I throw in my "baby shoulder caught on pelvic bone, baby shoved out broken and Mom pretty messed up herself?"
 

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Mon, 11-02-2009 - 4:42am

<(oh and for all the anti-inducers...induction w/ her saved both our lives!)>

Don't misunderstand me Sara - I think that induction, like C-sections, can be very useful when necessary.

My great big gripe is when it's done when unnecessary and then takes three days, like in my case. Inductions, IF done at all, should take less than 24hours from first pessary to baby's birth.

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Mon, 11-02-2009 - 4:40am
LOL! 'Go induce yourself'! I love it.

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