What about emotional repercussions?

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What about emotional repercussions?
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Sun, 01-13-2008 - 2:29pm

I haven't really read many of the threads on this board because they're so long so this topic may have already been discussed in length but...


What about the psychological effects that abortion has on the mother? I've known both rape victims and people who have just terminated their pregnancy for other reasons...and have experienced the deep regret and sorrow that these women experience as a result of abortion. Another eyeopener was reading testimonies of women on an HG (hypermesis: extreme m/s) board who had abortions to relieve their symptoms. Many of these mothers were devestated by the loss of their child. Granted this is a group of women who have wanted pregnancies but in a way this kind of applies to women who terminate wanted pregnancies because of mostly the POSSIBILITY of a birth defect (testing is definitely not a 100% sure thing). I just always find it funny that PLers are often accused of not thinking about the woman...when really I think abortion has the potential to be worse than death for the mother.

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Sun, 01-13-2008 - 2:41pm

We actually have discussed this issue many times.


Yes, some women do experience depression after an abortion. It is considered a form of PTSD. I should also point out that quite a few women experience PPD--post partum depression--which can be just as devastating. I gather the percentages may be quite similar. If one is prone to depression, hormonal imbalances or traumatic events can trigger it. Perhaps better screening is in order to help those women before they experience pregnancy rather than afterwards.

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Sun, 01-13-2008 - 5:10pm

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As someone who had an abortion; yes, I feel guilt and regret but I would not seek to prohibit other women from choice. For me, abortion was not worse than death. I think that I do understand the stance of PL's - I don't like the thought of abortion, I think of an unborn child as a life, but I definitely feel the life of the mother trumps that of the unborn. We simply cannot control another woman's body.

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Sun, 01-13-2008 - 6:27pm
I had an abortion almost
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Sun, 01-13-2008 - 6:57pm

I could tell you about the psychological effects of going through an unexpected pregnancy where I was single, the father was an active alcoholic and I had a manager that was trying to fire me.

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Registered: 12-19-2007
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 8:35pm

"I don't like the thought of abortion, I think of an unborn child as a life, but I definitely feel the life of the mother trumps that of the unborn."


I find that a very interesting statement. I don't understand that statement at all because you are accepting that a "fetus" is a person- yet you're saying that one person's life (that of the mother) is more important than another (the baby). Often in the responses I've gotten so far I see statements regarding how it's not fair to force someone to go through with an unwanted pregnancy- that it's their body. Well if the baby is a person then it's no longer the woman's body. He/she is a seperate body and one whose life is not any less precious than that of

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Sun, 01-13-2008 - 8:47pm

Pregnancy is not a fun thing- I'm finding that out first hand as I've had two trips to the ER already for dehydration from m/s. However, most pregnant women did have a choice. The initial choice to have sex- this may come as a surprise but the main purpose of sex as far as biology is concerned is reproduction ;) therefore if you willingly had sex even if you used contraception of some type (abstinence is the only 100% form of contraception that I know of to date...) you still put yourself at risk to become pregnant. Pregnancy does not just "happen" (excluding cases of rape and incest at this time because that's a whole

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Registered: 05-17-2004
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 8:49pm

To me, it is pretty simple:

Neither I, nor the government, have the right to legislate another woman's body. I believe abortion should remain legal, no matter my personal feeling about it.

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Sun, 01-13-2008 - 10:11pm

Are there many woman, despite the rough times and difficulties, regret the choice to birth their now born child, that if they could go back they would terminate them?


Rich or poor, healthy or ill, single or married, I don't think that there would be a situation that would cause me to say, "Hey, if I could go back I'd be better off and happier if I sacrificed my child's life".

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Registered: 06-17-2007
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 10:39pm

"Well if the baby is a person then it's no longer the woman's body."

Except that it depends on her, and only her, for survival. After it is born, it can survive without its mother. But until then it cannot.

The reason why we cannot separate the two in terms of rights is because you must subjugate the mother to the rights of the child if you do. If you decide that the embryo/zygote/fetus has the legal right to life, then it has the right to life no matter what happens to the mother. NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS TO THE MOTHER. So, should women who suffer from ectopic pregnancies be allowed to die because the life inside them is just as important as they are in a legal sense? There are people in this debate who would argue that yes, that is the case.

You see, John Locke's concept of personal, inalienable rights doesn't work here. His assumptions were based on the fact that keeping you alive does not hurt my right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of property (happiness added by Thomas Jefferson). If keeping my fetus inside me is going to kill me, and the fetus has the same legal right to life as I, then how do you decide who gets to die? And why on earth should YOU be allowed to make that decision for me? Don't you think my doctor is more qualified?




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Mon, 01-14-2008 - 7:41am

>>Rich or poor, healthy or ill, single or married, I don't think that there would be a situation that would cause me to say, "Hey, if I could go back I'd be better off and happier if I sacrificed my child's life". I guess I just don't get it. You mention your 'tough' road - and I'm glad that you don't regret it, but can we say that someone is mentally stable or capable of feeling or emotion if they can honestly birth a child, hold that child, look into that child's eyes and wish they had aborted them?<<

When I was PG with my second DS I had a lot of problems. It was assumed for most of the pregnancy that I was miscarrying. I was offered a D&C to speed along the process. i refused it and ended up delivering at 24 weeks. He survived 71 days and suffered a Grade 4 IVH that destroyed 1/2 his brain. He eventually died of NEC. I have acknowledged it would have been easier for him had I miscarried or had the D&C. not because I don't love him with all my heart but because I do.









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