What about emotional repercussions?

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What about emotional repercussions?
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Sun, 01-13-2008 - 2:29pm

I haven't really read many of the threads on this board because they're so long so this topic may have already been discussed in length but...


What about the psychological effects that abortion has on the mother? I've known both rape victims and people who have just terminated their pregnancy for other reasons...and have experienced the deep regret and sorrow that these women experience as a result of abortion. Another eyeopener was reading testimonies of women on an HG (hypermesis: extreme m/s) board who had abortions to relieve their symptoms. Many of these mothers were devestated by the loss of their child. Granted this is a group of women who have wanted pregnancies but in a way this kind of applies to women who terminate wanted pregnancies because of mostly the POSSIBILITY of a birth defect (testing is definitely not a 100% sure thing). I just always find it funny that PLers are often accused of not thinking about the woman...when really I think abortion has the potential to be worse than death for the mother.

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Mon, 01-14-2008 - 8:21am

earache said: "I don't like the thought of abortion, I think of an unborn child as a life, but I definitely feel the life of the mother trumps that of the unborn."

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No, she said a "life". A cancerous tumor is a life, a virus is a life, a wart is a life- yet none are on the level of a fully potentiated, born person.

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Not a "baby" til born, and as long as a pregnancy and the embryo or fetus that it contains are up inside the womans uterus, presenting unique short and long term risks to her health, body and life, it remains HER choice which set of attendant risks she chooses to assume, whether they be those involved in continued gestation and childbirth or those involved in abortion.

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It is ONLY the woman who bears the whole brunt of the physical risks and sacrifices, and she lives with those repercussions for the rest of her life. It is only her that should be able to make the decisions that impact her health and life.

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Ifthey are so separate, take them out and put them in a petri dish. Since the woman is so inconsequential. let her go her own way.
As long as their is an umbilicus, there si NO true separation.

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Sure you can. Would you not kill a man poised to hurt you or your children? You make a choice that your lives ARE worth more than his- or else you'd not kill in self-defense.

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Nope- entirely the PC point. Let WOMEN govern their won healthcare- just like EVERY other adult citizen in ths country. Let's stop trying to make them second-class.

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Abortion is not murder- and never can be due to the unique long and short term risks presented to the host , who must agree and consent to those risks in order to continue the gestation and give birth.


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Mon, 01-14-2008 - 9:04am

As someone who was already a mother, and knew the joys and hardships of being a mom, when i terminated, I still to this day have not felt one second of regret or remorse about my decision to terminate. Does this make me a callous, unloving person? Absolutely not. I love my daughter more than life itself and her well-being played a huge part in my decision to terminate.

I think many women regret their decision if they truly didn't believe it was the right thing for them to do. I knew then and know now terminating was the right decision for my family, so I have no emotional issues or regret surrounding my choice.

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Mon, 01-14-2008 - 9:18am
I agree with you. I haven't had an abortion, but since having my son it would be easier for me to terminate because the decision would be based on reality instead of some romantic fantasy about what motherhood would be like (as was the case when i decided not to terminate my first pregnancy).
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Mon, 01-14-2008 - 9:22am
Being pregnant, giving birth, and being a mom actually is what turned me from hard core PL to hard core PC.

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Mon, 01-14-2008 - 9:58am
I can guarantee you that being denied access to an abortion and being


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Mon, 01-14-2008 - 10:11am

My pregnancy was actually great.

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Mon, 01-14-2008 - 10:19am

"Are there many woman, despite the rough times and difficulties, regret the choice to birth their now born child, that if they could go back they would terminate them?"


Many?

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Mon, 01-14-2008 - 10:21am

Your honesty and willingness to analyze your own emotional responses are part of what I respect so highly about you.

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Mon, 01-14-2008 - 10:24am

"I think many women regret their decision if they truly didn't believe it was the right thing for them to do."


Yes, and studies have backed this up.

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Mon, 01-14-2008 - 10:39am

"Are there many woman, despite the rough times and difficulties, regret the choice to birth their now born child, that if they could go back they would terminate them?"

My grandmother has said to both my mother and I several times that if she could go back in time she would have never had children because they were "to much work" and "took away from her career". I 100% believe her.

I have a friend who had a baby right after HS. She loves her son but said if she could go back she would never have had children. She never wanted them and did not know she was pregnant until it was to late to abort. She gained very little weight and was on BC so she had no period. She never got morning sickness or any of that.

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