What about emotional repercussions?

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What about emotional repercussions?
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Sun, 01-13-2008 - 2:29pm

I haven't really read many of the threads on this board because they're so long so this topic may have already been discussed in length but...


What about the psychological effects that abortion has on the mother? I've known both rape victims and people who have just terminated their pregnancy for other reasons...and have experienced the deep regret and sorrow that these women experience as a result of abortion. Another eyeopener was reading testimonies of women on an HG (hypermesis: extreme m/s) board who had abortions to relieve their symptoms. Many of these mothers were devestated by the loss of their child. Granted this is a group of women who have wanted pregnancies but in a way this kind of applies to women who terminate wanted pregnancies because of mostly the POSSIBILITY of a birth defect (testing is definitely not a 100% sure thing). I just always find it funny that PLers are often accused of not thinking about the woman...when really I think abortion has the potential to be worse than death for the mother.

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Mon, 01-14-2008 - 9:42pm
Let's face it- it's already happening. Remember Amber Marlowe, the woman in 2004 who was expecting a large baby? It was her seventh child, and all her babies had been over ten pounds. When she refused a c-section, the hospital went to court and obtained emergency custody over her unborn child so that they could force her to have a c-section. But she and her husband went to another hospital and gave birth vaginally. It ended up being moot, but how scary is that? To lose custody of your child because you refused to have a c-section?




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Mon, 01-14-2008 - 11:20pm

"but in a way this kind of applies to women who terminate wanted pregnancies because of mostly the POSSIBILITY of a birth defect (testing is definitely not a 100% sure thing). "


I believe nature has a way of eliminating severe birth defects on its own. That's what a miscarriage is. Sometimes yes, a baby with a defect can be carried to term and it is dealt with outside the womb. I once saw a story about a couple who knew their baby was going to be born without a frontal brain. She carried to term and they spent 2 hours with her before she died naturally. They named her and enjoyed her as much as they humanly could.


"I just always find it funny that PLers are often accused of not thinking about the woman...when really I think abortion has the potential to be worse than death for the mother."


I am pro-life in all forms. Fetus, baby and Mother. I mostly debate on why I think abortion is wrong, only because all who challenge me say they have no guilt what so ever as a decision making adult. I find it hard to believe, but it's what they tell me. I won't pursue a persons point of view on that because they do indeed have the choice to feel the way they feel. I do, however pursue the debate that human life in a womb needs a voice against those who wish to silence them before they have one.

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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 12:19am

 

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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 12:32am

~I believe nature has a way of eliminating severe birth defects on its own. That's what a miscarriage is... before she died naturally.~


Just to be clear, these days often the children with severe birth defects survive

 

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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 4:53am


I know one. She gave her daughter up for adoption but later found that she'd carried her on a broken back. The health repercussions from that pregnancy have been HUGE, and if she'd known about her back at the time, she would have terminated.


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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 4:58am
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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 6:58am

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For you. But I assure you, it is perfectly valid and ultimately wiser for many women who find themselves pregnant before earning a college degree with which they can actually RAISE the child without shifting some or all of the burden upon society."


Why are you assuming that every woman who has a child before finishing college or without attending college becomes a burden on society?

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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 7:01am

"So, would you then also agree to laws that make it illegal for a woman to drink alcohol or take certain medications when pregnant? Should we also legislate how often a pregnant woman should see a doctor, perhaps treating her like a parolee when she misses an appointment for no good reason? Come on, the fact is that when a woman is forced to gestate an unwanted pregnancy, you are forcing decisions about her body and her health upon her."


Yes....One direct consequence of protecting the fetus is forcing the mother to carry it.

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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 8:06am

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I find a hard time thinking that most women can provide an adequate upbringing for a child without getting a college degree, much less graduating high school. Can some? Sure. Also there's the question of "adequate". Mine may be quite different from yours. Mine includes health insurance- not Medicaid or govt aid-, life insurance to raise that child in the event of her death, good housing, guardians in place in the event of her demise, and savings for those emergencies that always crop up.

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Sure is-= but then again, I never said, nor did I assume that "all" did. In fact, if you rad my quote verbatim, I said "many". And I'd also qualify that I'd not remove that woman's choice to decide for herself, but rather express what my opinion of that choice really is.


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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 8:12am

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Sorry, but forcible continued gestation, forcible childbirth (because we all know other options exist: abortion), compulsory medical treatments/procedures and compulsory drug/alcohol testing (for legal substances, OTC meds, and precsribed and medication)?
ALL violations of the woman's most basic civil rights as an adult citizen of this country. You may see it as pro-child, but it's at the expense of her rights and very anti-woman in my estimation.


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