What about emotional repercussions?

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What about emotional repercussions?
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Sun, 01-13-2008 - 2:29pm

I haven't really read many of the threads on this board because they're so long so this topic may have already been discussed in length but...


What about the psychological effects that abortion has on the mother? I've known both rape victims and people who have just terminated their pregnancy for other reasons...and have experienced the deep regret and sorrow that these women experience as a result of abortion. Another eyeopener was reading testimonies of women on an HG (hypermesis: extreme m/s) board who had abortions to relieve their symptoms. Many of these mothers were devestated by the loss of their child. Granted this is a group of women who have wanted pregnancies but in a way this kind of applies to women who terminate wanted pregnancies because of mostly the POSSIBILITY of a birth defect (testing is definitely not a 100% sure thing). I just always find it funny that PLers are often accused of not thinking about the woman...when really I think abortion has the potential to be worse than death for the mother.

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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 9:11pm
~What I don't get, is that NO ONE (not shouting just emphasising) forced a woman to get pregnant.~

 

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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 9:32pm

"And therefore you would place the needs of the fetus over the needs of the woman. Again I ask, should our laws protect the unborn from all actions a mother might take that could negatively affect the unborn? Would you support laws to ban alcohol consumption in pregnant women? To make it illegal for pregnant women to smoke cigarettes? To proscribe pregnant women from taking certain medications? To mandate prenatal care (which is perhaps the MOST important thing a mother can do for her unborn child)? "


No because that would be controlling women and as I stated that is not our intention....Also none of the things listed above are certain death...an abortion is certain death.

Ella Grayce

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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 9:40pm

"I agree with you. In this day it is hard to get a decent job without a college education or a trade of some kind. When I live it is pretty much required to have a BA. My Dh works for 8.30/hr, the only job he could find because his math disability prevents him from getting a BA. Even when I went to a job agency for helping looking for work all they could find was jobs that paid 8.00 an hour or less.


How could comeone raise a child with no help on that little amount of money and provie everything they need?"


....Family support??

Ella Grayce

Lilypie1st Birthday Ticker
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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 9:46pm

That is you though. I do not have any money put away. I got hurt within 6 months of my first full time job, right now DH and I have less than 2,000 in the bank. I also do not have family that could help with raising a child. My mother pays for my health insurance because I can't be without it and paying that adds a burden to her and my father. You are also married so your DH earns money as well. Right now DH and I live on what he makes and the little I get from WC, Under 1,500 month total.

Many people do not have family that could or are willing to help.




Edited 1/15/2008 9:48 pm ET by seirith
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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 10:55pm

I speak from personal experience that it feels a whole lot differently when it's you who is providing compulsory free daycare for the offspring of an older sibling who couldn't figure out how to prevent pregnancy. Not that I think that my SIL should have had an abortion, only that I shouldn't have been forced to care for their child for free.

Unlike my siblings, I waited to have children until I could afford them. My parents poured thousands of dollars into my brother's and sister's pockets to keep them afloat because they didn't see fit to prevent pregnancy. I think that there's something to be said for not forcing one's family to support one's bad decision-making. My Ellie (I hope she's as cute as yours!) is also getting a Britax car seat and a Peg Perego stroller from family, but as baby gifts from excited grandparents, not as part of some family dependent care program.




Edited 1/15/2008 10:59 pm ET by hollyelizabeth2007




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Wed, 01-16-2008 - 3:38am

I would be interested to know your opinion of my friend who wishes she had aborted. I posted her story earlier in this thread - if you missed it, I'll be happy to link to it.


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baby siggy
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Wed, 01-16-2008 - 3:42am

<In short, you described abortion as birth control.

baby siggy
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Wed, 01-16-2008 - 4:16am


IMO the world would be a better place if more people cultivated this ability.


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Wed, 01-16-2008 - 8:06am

Ella Grayce

Lilypie1st Birthday Ticker
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Wed, 01-16-2008 - 8:38am

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That's just logic. But it's still supposed to be shameful to not want kids, even after you've had them.


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