What do you say when

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2008
What do you say when
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Tue, 05-06-2008 - 2:59pm

a GUY keeps using the "Don't have sex if you're not going to be willing to go full term with a pregnancy from it " argument. I am ready to jump through the screen and strangle this guy because no matter what I say he says this back (this is from my local community forum message boards).


I thought I would come to the experts.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2008
Mon, 05-12-2008 - 1:56am

I

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2008
Mon, 05-12-2008 - 10:20am

"I

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-13-2006
Mon, 05-12-2008 - 1:02pm

Choice: "Plus, he is willing to raise the child but that doesn't deal with the actual issue - the pregnancy."


You: "He does somewhat. No he doesn't have to watch what he eats or be uncomfortable for nine months, but he takes care of my sister. If he is taking care of her then he is somewhat taking care of that child as well, since my sister doesn't have to do as much."


How does your response address the

"It is right to be contented with what we have, but never with what we are."

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2008
Mon, 05-12-2008 - 9:50pm

However, in regards to rape, it would be any woman's choice to have an abortion or not.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2008
Mon, 05-12-2008 - 10:48pm

"How does your response address the

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2008
Mon, 05-12-2008 - 10:49pm

"However, in regards to rape, it would be any woman's choice to have an abortion or not.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-13-2006
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 12:26am

It's quite obvious that the guy isn't pregnant.

"It is right to be contented with what we have, but never with what we are."

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2008
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 3:01am

"What I was getting at was how exactly did your response address the actual issue of the pregnancy."


I wasn't trying to address the issue of pregnancy. You asked me: "Does that mean he would be willing to be a single dad, if the mom didn't want the child?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-13-2006
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 1:47pm

You are going back to the wrong question.

"It is right to be contented with what we have, but never with what we are."

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2008
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 5:24pm

"That's what I am asking about. I hope that's clearer."


yup. I know what you're talking about now. lol


"Choice_addicts statement/question: "Plus, he is willing to raise the child but that doesn't deal with the actual issue - the pregnancy. (Emphasis, mine.)"


And i agree to that. The pregnancy is all hers. She is responsible for herself and that child during it. Raising a child that has already been born has nothing to do with an actual pregnancy because obviously the pregnancy is over.


"When pregnancy is described in such a manner, IMO, it acts as a leverage for PLs to remove the rights of physical autonomy from women.

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