Wished Best Friend Would Miscarry

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Registered: 07-22-2009
Wished Best Friend Would Miscarry
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Wed, 07-22-2009 - 12:04pm

I’m 27, childfree and perfectly happy with life with my husband, 3 dogs and great career. My best friend since I was 13 and her husband have been trying to conceive for 3 years now and I’ve been against it from the start. I couldn’t understand why she would ever possibly want to give up all the clubbing, dinner parties and vacations we go on be a slave to an infant.

All along I’ve hoped they don’t get pregnant. This girl is like a sister to me and has been through hell and back for me over the years. I wasn’t willing to give that up and completely avoided talking about anything pregnancy related. About 2 months ago she got pregnant and I got so upset having believed it would never happen and unable to stand by and watch her what I perceived to be ruining her life.

She miscarries yesterday and from what I’ve heard they’re taking it really hard. I want to go see her and tell her I’m sorry she’s hurting but deep down inside, I think this is for the best. She was pretty heart broken when I stormed out and I’m sorry things had to come to that. After everything we’ve been together I think I owe it to her to at least visit her. Would you have wanted to see me had you been in her position?

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Registered: 11-29-2005
Wed, 07-22-2009 - 12:49pm

Wow.

 


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Registered: 05-02-2006
Wed, 07-22-2009 - 1:18pm

Wow!

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Registered: 06-17-2007
Wed, 07-22-2009 - 1:24pm
Personally, I wouldn't think much of a "friend" who wished me ill in something I'd tried so desperately to achieve. So no, I do not think you should be around her. Probably ever. She deserves friends who will love her and support her in the things she wants for her life, not "friends" who will secretly try to sabotage her for their own selfish gain.




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Registered: 05-06-2007
Wed, 07-22-2009 - 2:55pm

No. I wouldn't have wanted to see you.

I'm the same age as you and find it completely fine if you dont want to have kids, but to try and impose that view on someone else who very obviously wants kids, IMO, that's pretty heinous.

Well, hey, at least you can go "clubbing" now.

BAER.

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Registered: 01-15-2008
Wed, 07-22-2009 - 3:34pm
I'm with everyone else. Seriously you reek of selfishness. I've been in your friends shoes having had multiple pregnancy losses and wouldn't want you anywhere near me with your selfish attitude. Do her the favor of staying away unless and until you can be a real friend and support HER and keep YOUSELF out of this.

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Wed, 07-22-2009 - 4:28pm

I started to reply to this almost as soon as it showed up on the board.


First, I was violating TOS. ;)


Second, I thought "what does this have to do with abortion debate? This belongs on one of the relationship boards".


Third, I figured TROLL.


Fourth, I hit Cancel Message.


There is the anatomy of my initial response.



Life is simpler when you plow around the stump.


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Registered: 01-22-2009
Wed, 07-22-2009 - 4:53pm

~She was pretty heart broken when I stormed out and I’m sorry things had to come to that.~


When did you storm out?

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Registered: 04-02-2009
Wed, 07-22-2009 - 5:04pm

I'm with Sisfox.

 

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Registered: 01-19-2006
Wed, 07-22-2009 - 9:00pm

Wow - you say you're the best of friends but you certainly come across as someone who doesn't respect her friend much. Surely your friend knew your negative feelings about her pregnancy - WHY would she want fake sympathy from someone? JMHO.


Oh, and btw - you're venturing into an area that's really none of your business. Friends or not, this is just one line it isn't cool to cross. I am nearly a decade older than you, with two kids. I have two wonderful friends who are CFBC and I would be *appalled* if they had your attitude. What's good for one couple is a nightmare for another, and vice versa.


Try seeing it from her POV and be supportive if they should try again.

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Registered: 01-15-2008
Wed, 07-22-2009 - 9:19pm
Hahaha OMG Ok after I responded and I came back here and

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