Worth the loving

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Worth the loving
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Sun, 03-09-2008 - 10:37pm

So many use disease and complications for their reasoning for terminating a pregrancy - but what about the love that they loose out on in that choice?


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Tue, 03-11-2008 - 12:15am

If you think parents of

 

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Registered: 04-15-2006
Tue, 03-11-2008 - 12:30am

"I don't mind :) I'm glad that you did use it as an example, actually, because now you know that's far from being a "simple" condition.

She does have a good life, loving family, and good friends, and she is a wonderful person - but for her there have been times when she herself would rather not have been born.

(She is prochoice.)"

Thank you for sharing about your daughter. She must be one tough cookie (and you too!). Can I ask how old she is?

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Tue, 03-11-2008 - 1:06am
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Tue, 03-11-2008 - 8:13am

Some, Kathleen - not all or the majority, but some.

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Tue, 03-11-2008 - 8:15am

Ella is 4 - she was 3 when this happened.

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Registered: 04-10-2003
Tue, 03-11-2008 - 8:28am

<< I would hate to think that due to lack of insurance a child was ever denied the opportunity to be loved. That is all that I am trying to get at re: insurance and where the money comes from. >>

And I would not legislate that away either. But I WOULD express my opinion that it may be considered selfish and immoral for parents to impose that debt on society without the means to pay for it when it is a TERMINAL case.

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They already do if they are uninsured and cannot pay for chemo and radiation therapy. I'd like to see those EXISTING children get the fundage for treatment instead of terminal fetuses that need extensive life support as they die. Resources, including the money for health care, is not an infinite resource, no matter what some think. And yes, I think lines will need to be drawn. It would be nice if people thought with their head and logic and saved those resources for those who would truly benefit form them.

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Registered: 05-06-2007
Tue, 03-11-2008 - 8:55am

Right on, Melisa.

Your quote "I would not want to carry around on my conscience the fact that I made my child suffer out of my own selfishness and groundless hope" rings true to the situation in which I chose to abort. While I love being a mother and would love to be a mother to two, I could not bring a child into the world knowing it would suffer with an abusive addict as its father and I certainly couldn't have put my 2 year old daughter through that either.

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Tue, 03-11-2008 - 10:34am

It just strikes me a bit weird for someone that is so PC to suggest that someone that chooses to do something that they don't agree with is not making a moral choice. Are you suggesting that we make laws based on morals?


There are no guaranties in life or in death. There are many diseases that were once thought to be terminal but as research has advanced,

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Tue, 03-11-2008 - 10:49am

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Nope- it's my opinion, and I was expressing it. That a woman who is carrying a fetus with a known terminal condition might be considered selfish for continuing that pregnancy. Yup- I might even consider it immoral to do so, for a couple of reasons, one of which is the consumption of resources that might be used for kids that COULD live until 3 yrs old instead of shortly after birth. But never did I mandate law that made that choice for her.

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Tue, 03-11-2008 - 12:29pm


No you said..."Unless it's a self-pay situation, I'm not sure it is a moral choice to continue gestating a terminal fetus or one that has an anomaly inconsistent with life, or one that will result in an infant in critical condition that is dying. "


Medicine is not an exact science so how