wwyd??

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wwyd??
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Wed, 09-10-2008 - 1:34pm
hello!! i hope i never find myself in this situation because i dont know what i would do or say. i know everyones got an opinion-so im curious to know what you would do in this situation. a 16 year old boy got his 16 year old girlfriend pregnant. neither of them have a job-they are both decent students in school-theyve been together for almost a year, but they are only 16. the girl and the boys family are close. the mother of the boy told the girl that its up to her what she wants to do, but she really doesnt want her to have an abortion. she will help them with the baby-including take custody of it if the couple decides they really dont want to raise it. but she will NOT pay for the abortion. the girl still isnt sure what she wants to do. so if youre the girls parents, what would you do/tell your child?? i mean, besides the fact that you love her and will support whatever decision she makes... although maybe you wouldnt tell your dd that...maybe you would tell your dd that you love her but you wont support her if she has an abortion. i have 2 girls-8 and 4. i have no idea what i will do or say if my dd comes up to me at 16 and says im pregnant. im prolife-but i dont believe i have the right to tell others what to do with their life. a girl at work just took her dd to have an abortion-she was in the room with her-it gave me the creeps to listen to her describe what the procedure was. it made me a lil sick actually, but i dont believe i have the right to control another person. i dont think that makes me prochoice-i think im a cross between the 2. but wwyd in the above situation...

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Registered: 10-06-2010
In reply to: jhbear419
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 1:43pm

I would tell my daughter that if she wanted to have an abortion/give the child up I would help but that if she wanted to keep the child she would have until 6 months after the child is born and then she would need to move out and find a place of her own.

It is the same things my parents told me-if you want to be an adult and do adult things then you need to move out and be an adult and find a way to support yourself. If I had gotten pregnant at 16 there is no way my parents would have let me live in their house. When I told my mother I was done with school and wanted to get a job instead of college she said fine but you need to find a place to live because if you are going to be an adult an adult does not like with their parents. I did make plans to move out with my fiance but realized it was much smarter to go back to school.

I would not help her raise her child because if she wants the child she needs to be the one to raise it. I might give her some financial support if I was able to but I would require her to find her own place to live.

I would probably push her to have an abortion/give the child up for adoption because I do not believe most teenagers are ready for the responsibility of raising a child. I would also make sure she realizes having a child will completely changer her life in every way and will take away from her years of growing up and fun because she will be responsible for herself and someone else 24/7.

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Registered: 12-04-2007
In reply to: jhbear419
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 2:15pm
I would tell dd that the decision is up to her but that I would not support her financially if she keeps the child. As the previous poster said, if she wants to have sex like an adult and keep the child like an adult, she needs to provide for herself and the baby like an adult. I would never be willing to raise a child's baby under those circumstances but I would probably try to steer her towards adoption.
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Registered: 05-06-2007
In reply to: jhbear419
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 2:28pm

I have one DD who is 5 1/2.

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Registered: 04-10-2003
In reply to: jhbear419
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 4:09pm

Ditto.

I am pro choice and that extends to my children. I would encourage her to finish school and help her out with the baby as well, if she chose to have it. The only thing I *would* do is caution against her adopting it out. But if she chose to, I'd support her nonetheless.

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Registered: 05-06-2007
In reply to: jhbear419
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 4:27pm

" I would encourage her to finish school and help her out with the baby as well, if she chose to have it. "


Agreed.

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Registered: 07-18-2008
In reply to: jhbear419
Thu, 09-11-2008 - 9:48am
I have a 16 yr old DD and found out she was considering having sex.
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In reply to: jhbear419
Thu, 09-11-2008 - 10:01am

I read your profile.

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Registered: 08-15-2008
In reply to: jhbear419
Thu, 09-11-2008 - 10:11am

I'm not a parent, but in that situation, I'd take her to a therapist who was open to all options and let the therapist help her come to a decision.

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Registered: 07-18-2008
In reply to: jhbear419
Thu, 09-11-2008 - 10:24am

Thank you.

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Thu, 09-11-2008 - 10:37am

" I would also

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