How much advocating BFing do you do in real life?
I would not talk to a 'perfect stranger' if they were bottle feeding. But if they were NIP, sometimes I might say something if the opportunity arose. Not straight out about BF, but maybe, what a beautiful baby you have, and if the conversation starts, mention something about BF, and how good it is - more in an acknowledging or encouraging way. I do not go out of my way to accost strangers anywhere though.
But a woman was nursing a baby of about 12 months near me on an hours long bus trip, and I spoke to her. I also did it in her case because her race is known to have huge mortality rates for infants and others, with a life expectancy well below the rest of the Australian population.
I now speak out and correct mis-information in general conversation. eg if I hear people say that they would not BF after some arbitrary age or if the baby has teeth, I will say something. I will also talk about how long I BF my children for, so that they see that it is OK to BF for longer than infancy. Whereas previously, I pretty much would have never come out and stated that I BF one of mine for well over two years.
I wouldn't do much with a stranger who wasn't interested in bf'ing. I would be willing to do things like talk to groups of people, or help women who want to bf'd so they can make it work, which I imagine includes educating on reasons to and how to keep going. As far as what I've actually done, nothing so far. But I'm on a list for a new bf'ing mentor program for new mothers of preemies, so hopefully I'll be able to start that soon, whenever they have enough volunteers to put the program in place. That'll be a start and I think eventually I want to do more.
I think for your situation all you can do is let her know you are available. It's really up to her to take you up on your offer. I wouldn't hit her with a bunch of information without knowing if she's even at all interested in doing it. It won't be persuasive if she's not open to it, and in the end "information" might not be the most persuasive aspect for her. It seems her issue is with practically making it work, it could be believing in herself, or confidence, or some fear that is holding her back. You can best help her if you understand what is underlying her hesitation.
In the end it really truly is "not your child not your problem" but if that was the end of it for you then the question wouldn't be in your mind. And advocacy IS based on the premise that whatever the issue is, it's an issue for all of us. At the same time, even the best advocacy won't convince all. So I'd say another softball pitch like you served up last time would be good, then see what she does with it.
<<Actually, DH will start talking about BFing in casual conversation, too ;)>>
Awesome, mine too!
That's awesome, Harmony!
Maybe if your husband approached her? Since she seems more comfortable with him?
He could "read up" a bit, so if she had questions he could answer (or offer to research and get back to her) them and offer encouragement.
That's cool Andrea!