Are four breasts better than two?

Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
Are four breasts better than two?
Fri, 01-27-2012 - 7:47pm

What do you think? If you were in a situation that made it possible, would you do it? Great idea - or never gonna happen!?

It wouldn't have to be a lesbian couple, it could be two friends, two sisters, mom and day-care provider or even a mom and daughter situation.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2008
Wed, 02-01-2012 - 3:31pm
While I am Ok with the idea in principle, I'm not sure how I would react in practice though. I do worry though that it might be too difficult for both moms to maintain a proper supply if your sharing BF'ing duties unless your where having twins/multiples or the one was pumping when the other was nursing. Since I co-slept, I never worried much about nighttime feedings. This is the sort of thing that sounds good in theory to me but likely would not be so easy to pull off.

The main possible issues I see with this are:
* Maintaining sufficient supply between both moms, especially if nursing only one baby. If one mom did daytime nursing (i.e. during the others work hours) then they would likely have issue keeping on a good supply if only nursing say 3 times a day, especially if the other mo goes back to work prior to 6 months postpartum.
* Jealousy/psychological issues might come up where the birth mom has problems with frequently sharing nursing duties with her non-birth mom partner.
* There is also the issue that others such as family members, friends, etc. would likely not view this arrangement as proper/healthy/acceptable/etc. Many people already seem very uncomfortable with the idea of occasional or emergency cross-nursing or the idea of non-bio mom nursing a baby (as in adoptive nursing) so I see this arrangement as attracting equal criticism. So you'd have to be able to put up with the almost certain criticism that would come from others if you went this route. With some things like ext. BF'ing I see the benefits as worth the likely criticism you bound to get from at least a few people, but with this I not so sure about that.

I think a better solution if both moms in the relationship want to experiencing nursing is to have one nurse a baby they birthed and then the other nurse a baby they birth. If the moms wanted two kids close together, have the advantage that you could have the 2nd mom get impregnated while the 1st mom was still nursing which would have the benefit of the first child not potentially having to experience moms milk drying up during PG. Also there would be no sore nipples or the heebie-jeebies that many moms nursing while PG complain about for the 1st mom. Once the new baby is born by the 2nd mom, the 1st mom could occasionally help nurse the 2nd baby when need be, provided she is still nursing the older child.


Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
Fri, 01-27-2012 - 11:46pm

What if one woman nursed the baby while the other woman was at work? The working woman would have to pump anyhow and if she wasn't able to pump enough, the baby would still be fed.

To be honest, I am not sure I would be comfortable with sharing this way, though I don't share well in general! LOL But I can certainly see how it would be great to be able to hand over the baby when I had enough, or I was sick. Full-time, not so much...

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-28-2011
Fri, 01-27-2012 - 9:41pm
It sounds like it would actually work out better with twins or multiples. If I had twins or more with a female partner, I would probably try. With one baby the pump while my partner bfs would be a lot more work. With at least 2 babies though, there would probably be enough nursing to maintain both supplies. Maybe I'm being simplistic.