BF makes you a lazy parent?

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BF makes you a lazy parent?
Fri, 10-29-2010 - 7:04pm

At LLL this morning, another member (probably about 60% tongue-in-cheek) suggested that bf'ing makes you a lazy parent.

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Fri, 10-29-2010 - 7:55pm


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Registered: 06-24-2008
Fri, 10-29-2010 - 8:16pm

I don't think lazy is the right word.

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Registered: 09-27-2010
Sat, 10-30-2010 - 3:31am

I think those are certainly benefits of BFing - but I don't think that makes you lazy.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 10-30-2010 - 5:29am

I think she's looking at it the wrong way round. a better statement might be "a job is easier when you have the right tools".

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Sat, 10-30-2010 - 12:03pm

I have no idea. I tend to agree with Isabel, though.

It's amazing what people will say...when my first child was an infant, someone told me that BF "makes demanding babies", because they supposedly "never have to wait for anything", the way bottlefed babies might. Moms who BF tend to be able to feed the baby then and there, as soon as the need arises, so the baby never "learns" patience.

At the time, I thought there might be some credence to this theory, but now I think it's ridiculous. There's nothing wrong whatsoever with a baby feeling confident and secure in the knowledge that his needs will be met as soon as they arise. In fact, I'd think all parents would want to strive for that, regardless of how they feed their babies. Sure, some methods may require prep-work, but aiming for a certain personality outcome in the child as a result of that seems pretty silly to me.

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Registered: 05-20-2008
Sat, 10-30-2010 - 8:25pm

I don't like the term lazy when applied to BF'ing due to the fact that it seems to imply that the extra work required for bottle feeding is somehow a benefit to mom or baby. Thus I think a better way of putting it might be calling BF'ing efficient,


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Registered: 04-13-2008
Sun, 10-31-2010 - 4:30am
I agree. It is more 'easy' parenting, rather than 'lazy'. Laziness implies somehow some sort of sloth and lack of necessary care and attention. BF does not seem to fit that.

Lazy might fit bottle-propping better, or even a mother who constantly, for no good reason, passes off the care of the baby to others. I am not talking here about a mother who is working, and leaves her baby in care for part of the time, nor am I talking about a situation where both parents share parenting duties. Rather, the 'hypothetical' mother who would be leaving her baby all the time, simply to socialise, or constantly expecting her partner/other people to look after the baby all of the time, rather than taking some responsibility.

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