BF/ No visitors?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
BF/ No visitors?
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Sun, 04-06-2003 - 2:28pm
Just curious- did anyone who had trouble BFing institute a no-visitors rule during the postpartum period? I had a horrible time with my daughter-she refused to latch, screamed every time I tried to feed her, etc- and I think that if I had not had people always visiting, we may have succeeded. (We gave up trying after 5 weeks with not one sucessful feeding.) I never wanted to start the feeding/screaming/crying cycle when I knew people would be coming over, and I'd always have to have visitors leave the room when I was trying to nurse, because it would take both me and a nurse or LC to get her to try and latch, and I'd have to take my whole gown off.

Did anyone else have this same scenario? Should I have told people not to visit?

Erin

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 04-06-2003 - 3:16pm
For my second child I didn't encourage visitors for about a month after I had him. Not only because of breastfeeding but also because I was so dang tired. Babies are just as cute after they are a month old as they are when they are newborn.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sun, 04-06-2003 - 8:25pm
I would think if you were worried &/or uncomfortable about BFing when visitors came that it day play a big part in your problems. If you were tense, your baby would pick up on that, plus the stress it put on you didn;t help either.

I had a no visitors policy because I'm mainly a &!^@% and I didn;t feel like entertaining. So no, I had no trouble implementing it. Im a bit selfish too, in the respect that this was MY baby and I wanted my DH & me to have as much alone time w/ her as possible. We had a semi-private room @ the hospital & we never had any privacy.

I really think you should do what is best for you. So, if you felt that you didn;t need visitors, it's ok to tell them not to come. And for those who just show up w/o calling-DON'T answer the door. Don't feel bad or guilty about it either. Unless they are bringing a meal, cleaning your house, doing your laundry, etc. they don;t NEED to be there before 4-6 weeks until after baby is born. Your friends will understand if they are really your friends. I have never gone to a friend's house who has just had a baby to hang out. I've taken a meal &/or gift & left, even if they invited me in.

Janet & nursling Sierra

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-07-2003 - 10:49am
Erin,

I think that would have been a great idea for you. I know that it was hard for me and I think with our next baby we will institute more of a "no visitors" policy. It's hard to be "tough" with family when they all just want to see the new baby! But MOMMY AND BABY COME FIRST and I think that a "No Visitors" policy is a great idea!!!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 04-07-2003 - 7:25pm
Didnt have that scenario & im so sorry you did ... but i see no reason NOT to restrict vistors for WHATEVER reason is good for you & your baby! R~