Is BF vs FF more controversial then other parenting controversies?

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Registered: 05-20-2008
Is BF vs FF more controversial then other parenting controversies?
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Fri, 07-29-2011 - 5:16pm

How would you rank the following controversies in terms of the degree of controversy each generates?

* BF promotion in general

* Formula feeding by choice

* Breastfeeding an adopted baby

* Cross-nursing/wet-nursing

* Use of mother-to-mother donated breastmilk

* Banning/restricting of free formula samples in hospitals

* extended BF'ing (BF'ing a toddler or preschooler)

* Child-led weaning vs parent-led weaning

* Nursing in public

* Breastfeeding dolls vs bottle-feeding dolls

* Co-sleeping vs Crib sleeping

* CIO

* Circumcision vs. intacktisvism

* Disposable vs cloth diapering

* Mainstream parenting vs Babywise vs Attachment Parenting (AP)

* Stroller vs babywearing

Which do you think are the most controversial parenting/infant feeding practices where you live and the least controversial?

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Registered: 07-11-2006

Just guessing, in order:

Lamest (little controversy)

* Stroller vs babywearing

* Disposable vs cloth diapering

* Formula feeding by choice

* Circumcision vs. intacktisvism
* BF promotion in general

Controversial
* Nursing in public
* Child-led weaning vs parent-led weaning
* Mainstream parenting vs Babywise vs Attachment Parenting (AP)
* CIO
* Banning/restricting of free formula samples in hospitals

Taboo
* Co-sleeping vs Crib sleeping
* Breastfeeding dolls vs bottle-feeding dolls
* extended BF'ing (BF'ing a toddler or preschooler)
* Breastfeeding an adopted baby
* Use of mother-to-mother donated breastmilk
* Cross-nursing/wet-nursing
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Registered: 05-20-2008
nisupulla wrote:

Just guessing, in order:

Lamest (little controversy)

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* Disposable vs cloth diaperin
* Circumcision vs. intacktisvism

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I going to have to disagree with your above categorizations of CD'ing anf Circ. as generating little controversy. I have been surprised to hear from other CD'ing mothers about the sort of negative reactions they get to mentioning they CD so I think it's a little more controversial then you might think. Maybe in certain parts so the country it's not really discussed and everyone just used disposable diapers and thus there is little controversy but it seems to be more controversial in other parts. I say the same thing applies to circ. as it can be very controversial in certain parts of the country. More recently a anti-cric activist got a measure based on the ballot in San Francisco, CA. that would ban circ. for non-medical reasons. This created a whole lot for controversy all over the U.S. over parental rights and religiuouse freedom (their was no exemption for Jewish Bris in the law), likely out of fear such .a measure come might

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Registered: 07-11-2006

Do any of you think that the No Kids Allowed movement and the Right to Breastfeed in public are about to collide?

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Registered: 06-04-2004

Heh...about a year ago, on a popular natural-parenting blog's Facebook page, I was part of a conversation wherein the Pampers designer diapers were being discussed. I was flabbergasted to see that disposable-using mothers were actually being called "stupid", "selfish" and "lazy" by cloth users. It may well be that cloth users receive criticism or ridicule too, but they are absolutely NOT immune to dishing it out. In fact, I "unliked" that Facebook page that very day because I was so bowled over by the fact that those comments were being made and allowed to stand without being moderated by the owners of the page. I also can't say I've ever seen anyone say anything that harsh about a mother who uses cloth diapers. Sorry, but I refuse to stand around idly listening to people be that nasty about DIAPER CHOICE. Give me a break.

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thistlemchays wrote:

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witch_power wrote:
thistlemchays wrote:

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I can definitely say that people can be nasty with regard to CD'rs. They seem to interpret the mere fact that you CD as a implication that disposable diaper users don't care about the environment and are lazy, without anything being said to support that assumption. As with any parenting debate, there are going to be people on both sides who can be nasty about others who do things differently then they do. So of course your going to get CD'rs who are intolerant and rude towards users of disposables. You see the same thing with mainstream/Babywise vs AP parents, where both sides see their choice as the only right choice and are very ride and intolerant towards those who follow parenting philosophies other then their own. Garry Ezzo, the author of Babyiwse, has made a career of fueling the war between non-AP and AP parents and portraying AP'rs as the devil's spawn. Dr. Sears tends to take a more balanced approach to AP, not portraying mainstream parents as evil, even in he disagrees with mainstream parenting philosophies. Unfortunately, some more diehard AP parents take the view that anyone who doesn't practice AP is a bad parent and can be quit rude to non-AP'rs. But the same can be said of BF'rs vs FF'rs. Some BF'rs failt o realize that there are indeed reasons why a mom might need to use formula and that using formula does not automatically make one bad mom. Some FF'rds are also very rude and intolerant, believing that BF'rs are under some delusion that BF'ing is really better health-wise compare with modern formula. They really believe that science is so good these days that it has no problem making a BM substitute that is as good as or better then BM created by mother nature/god. In some cases FF'rs eem to assume that simply becuase you BF, that you must be a BF extremist who views all FF'ing moms as bad mothers who BF solely by choice for strictly selfish reasons.

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Registered: 04-13-2008

With regard to CD and disposables, in Australia, at the time my children were little, cloth was used by practically everyone, although many people used disposables when they went out. These days, the picture has altered.

Robert, who had all his allergies, and such sensitive skin, could not tolerate disposables at all and would get a rash. I also had to change his cloth nappies a lot, and he drank a lot. 21 or 22 per day was typical. I also ended up getting some washable, reusable liners for him that were very good.

We travelled to Italy when he was just 1 year, and stayed for six weeks. While he had to use disposables on the plane, I knew his skin would be a mess just from that, and that he could not live in disposables for six weeks, even though I would have used them on such a holiday with my other two children. So I took a lot of cloth ones to use while there.

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Registered: 10-01-2010
thistlemchays wrote:

What do people say about cloth diapers and those who use them? I'm genuinely curious.

The one that always makes me laugh is that people who use cloth diapers must be poor and cannot afford "real" diapers! LOL

They talk about washing machines stinking,

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Registered: 06-04-2004
witch_power wrote:
thistlemchays wrote:

What do people say about cloth diapers and those who use them? I'm genuinely curious.

The one that always makes me laugh is that people who use cloth diapers must be poor and cannot afford "real" diapers! LOL

They talk about washing machines stinking,

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