BFing Mom More Like A 'Mama Bear' Than Bottle-Feeders

Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
BFing Mom More Like A 'Mama Bear' Than Bottle-Feeders
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Tue, 09-06-2011 - 11:59am

Do you believe that BFing are moms more courageous, more defensively agressive than bottle feeding moms?

I do rememebr that mother bear feeling come over me with my 2nd that I exclusively BF, that did not with my FF 1st. I thought it was the circumstances of his early birth and time in the NICU. I know it took months and severe illness before I felt that strongly with my first.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-11-2006

I think the mama bear idea makes good sense and is consistent with the idea that "bonding" is stronger for BF mothers.

(I'll read the article later.)

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2008

It is interesting that a mother who has fed two babies differently is saying that it took a lot longer to feel the same strength of bond with the FF baby. Not that the bond did not happen, but there must be something different about how quickly it is able to form.

Anecdotally, I myself always felt such a huge attachment and did not want to be apart from my babies, and only if I could not avoid it. I did not seek to be away from them for my own pleasure and fun while they were little, as it certainly would not have been pleasant and fun at all, but rather was something that caused me some level of anxiety.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-11-2006

it will be one more thing that is brought up as just something that big mean breastfeeders say, and ought not be said for fear of making women feel guilty.

Unfortunately.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2010
teresagem wrote:

Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
jessica765 wrote:
Maybe it's scientific support for the "breastfeeders are big meanies" idea?
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-11-2006

Maybe it's scientific support for the "breastfeeders are big meanies" idea?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2010
nisupulla wrote:

Maybe it's scientific support for the "breastfeeders are big meanies" idea?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-11-2006

Hmm. Let's see. Should I defer to the author of the study's opinion:

Jennifer Hahn-Holbrook, a postdoctoral fellow in the UCLA Department of Psychology and the study’s lead author. “It may be providing mothers with a buffer against the many stressors new moms face while at the same time, giving mothers an extra burst of courage if they need to defend themselves or their child.”

or yours:

This was not a study where anyone was being threatened, or where there was a simulation of anyone being threatened.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-11-2006

When breastfeeders...are confronted with...rude behavior...the[y] react more aggressively [than other women].

Um. I think I just said that. According to the study, bfing women act aggressively toward rude behavior. They do NOT provoke it. So IF a bfer is acting aggressively toward a ffer then it is reasonable to assume that the ffer was being rude. In my world, the rude instigator is the Bully. The person who stands up to the Bully is courageous.


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2010
nisupulla wrote:

Hmm. Let's see. Should I defer to the author of the study's opinion:

Jennifer Hahn-Holbrook, a postdoctoral fellow in the UCLA Department of Psychology and the study’s lead author. “It may be providing mothers with a buffer against the many stressors new moms face while at the same time, giving mothers an extra burst of courage if they need to defend themselves or their child.”

or yours:

This was not a study where anyone was being threatened, or where there was a simulation of anyone being threatened.

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