BFing is more offensive than slapping a child?

Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
BFing is more offensive than slapping a child?
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Fri, 10-07-2011 - 9:01am

Seems Twitter was abuzz with discussions on the movie The Slap - did you watch it? What upsets you more - the fact that the child was slapped - or that the child was still breastfeeding?

"And all of a sudden the main thing I saw in #theslap stream was that people were more creeped out by the breastfeeding of a 4 year old than that same child being struck across the face. How disappointing. I get that at 4, the extended breastfeeding goes outside most people’s comfort zones. But really? You’d rather watch a child being hit than see them breastfeed?"

http://www.goodgoogs.com/when-breastfeeding-is-more-offensive-than-the-slap/

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2011
Fri, 10-07-2011 - 9:34am

In the context of the show "The Slap", both were equally as offensive. My extended argument here:

http://justbaustralia.com.au/family/big-boys-blouse-2082/

Nicole x

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Fri, 10-07-2011 - 9:44am

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2008
Fri, 10-07-2011 - 6:54pm
wideeyedgirl wrote:

In the context of the show "The Slap", both were equally as offensive. My extended argument here:

http://justbaustralia.com.au/family/big-boys-blouse-2082/

Nicole x

I have not read or seen any of this story. However, from the various comments you and some other people make, it is not just about slapping and extended breastfeeding. It seems to be a lot more about a mother who has not and is not teaching her child and setting boundaries.

I wonder if the show had been done differently, with the mother comforting and molly-coddling the child in a completely different fashion, when she whould have been teaching him that his actions were wrong, would the message have actually been more powerful? I get the feeling that the issue of extended breastfeeding, with lots of people going ew gross, has sidetracked the deeper issue, of the quality (or lack of) parenting.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Fri, 10-21-2011 - 5:42pm

I saw the show.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2008
Mon, 10-24-2011 - 11:33am

I think the online response didn't focus on the slap because we were all expecting to see a slap.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Mon, 10-24-2011 - 4:44pm

The 'slap' in question involved a man at a party slapping someone else's 4yo across the face.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2008
Wed, 10-26-2011 - 8:18pm
I understood that the slap was not a controlled spank by the parents or some other sort of controlled physical discipline attempt but rather simply a person getting angry and slapping the face of a bratty child uncontrollably. Even in that context, I think at best the BF'ing a 4yo would be viewed by many as just as bad as a stranger slapping a bratty kid across the face would be seen as just as bad as a slap. There are many people who view BF'ing a 4yo as a form of sexual abuse and sexual abuse is viewed as just as bad as physical abuse. Some people though will see the slap by this stranger as more understandable, though still wrong, due to the perceived lack of discipline by the child's mom.

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