Bookfan asked a good question.

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Bookfan asked a good question.
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Thu, 10-23-2003 - 8:59am
I feel this deserves a thread of it's own. Do you feel that feeding choice impacts the husband/wife relationship? Now that wasn't the exact question but it was similiar;) Thoughts?~Lisa

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Thu, 10-23-2003 - 9:43am
Not at all.

~christine~

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Thu, 10-23-2003 - 9:57am
i think parenthood has a profound effect -- feeding the baby is really just a minor portion when you look at the the bigger picture.

honestly, of all the people i know who ff -- mom does the majority of the feedings, dad does a few, one in awhile - which is not that much different from the people i know who bf. women are a far greater portion of the workforce (then they were say 30 years ago), etc but when it comes to the household we tend to fall into traditional roles.

anyone read "second shift"? all about how women who hold full time jobs still come home to do the majority of the household chores. sure, there are exceptions to this rule. i cook dinner pretty much all the time, but i also leave the kitchen in a complete state of disarray once i do. my husband does all this clean-up every night (something his father WOULD NEVER do). however, i still do the laundry and he moves the lawn.

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Thu, 10-23-2003 - 10:34am

LOL...uh, yah.


~christine~

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Thu, 10-23-2003 - 10:41am
No.
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Thu, 10-23-2003 - 11:05am
Definitely. In many ways, it effects both partners.
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Thu, 10-23-2003 - 11:09am

I think that would depend on if the dh was supportive of the dw's choice on feeding.


If they never did much to begin with...feeding choice certaintly isn't going to make much of a difference.


If they are not in agreement over the chosen way to feed...it would probably put some sort of hamper on the relationship


If they were all for the chosen way to feed, but don't do much extra to help....I think it would either keep the relationship the same.


I do have to say that I think it would definitly strengthen it if they went above and beyond what they normally would do AND are extremely supportive regardless of whether they agree with the choice or not.


I know that I am much more appreciative of my dh and have a stronger relationship with him because not only did he support me (always a plus) but he went above and beyond and did more around the house then what he normally would have done, which was alot to begin with.


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Thu, 10-23-2003 - 11:41am
my dh totally thinks breast is best but i am sure if i chose to ff he would have been supportive also, his biggest concern with me breastfeeding in the begining was people being able to see my breast when i NIP but now he knows i am not a flasher, :-)

yoga

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Thu, 10-23-2003 - 11:51am
christine, if my husbands cereal bowl went into the sink i would be overjoyed,,, i have to take it from the living room to soak it in the sink before i wash it!!!!!the only thing he puts in the sink is stuff like cheese wrappers and pop cans because opening the cubboard under the sink is to much trouble!!!i did find a way to get him to throw his dirty socks in the hamper thou,, i finally quit washing them!!!!!! he would just leave em on the bedroom floor so when i did laundry i would have to go round up all his socks and one day i just stopped doing that then when he ran out of socks he came to me asking where his socks were and i told him they were where he left them,, he now knows where the laundry basket is!!!! i am the sock fairy no more!!

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Kelsey The Brainiac

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Thu, 10-23-2003 - 12:28pm

I have to wonder if with men (in general) their biggest thing is not so much the breast being used for feeding...but GASP...another person besides themselves seeing the breast.


Can't word this right...but something about "ownership."


I am constantly telling dh that my breasts are MINE and he keeps trying to convince me that since we are married, they fall under the half ownership clause.


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Thu, 10-23-2003 - 12:29pm
I really think it depends on the type of relationship the couple has. I find it hard to believe that a feeding choice could have a big impact in either a positive or negative way.

J&S

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