Breastfeeding at any cost?

Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
Breastfeeding at any cost?
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Fri, 02-03-2012 - 3:30pm

"Do you really think that breastfeeding is SO important that it is worth enduring weeks and months of pain and frustration, exhaustion, and/or compromising one's mental health?"

(473 comments!)

http://www.mothering.com/community/t/487795/breastfeeding-at-any-cost

How far is far enough? How long is long enough? What would be your personal stopping point? When would you know that you had tried your very best and could not go on?

Do you think your best/your stopping point would be different with your first child and first experience than with your current child, with more mothering experience under your belt?

If you feel that sometimes other moms tend to make excuses and give up too easily, what would they have to do to "prove" they had really tried their best?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 02-05-2012 - 1:59am

Oh, how much I relate to this post.

I gave up BF my DS when I started to resent him being hungry.

Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
Sun, 02-05-2012 - 11:48am

{{hugs}} I wasn't passionate about breastfeeding at the time, but I remember feeling like such a failure with my 1st, because I know I gave up way too easily ( I struggled thru much worse problems with the next two that I did breastfeed)

I felt ashamed to admit I had only breastfeed him for 3 weeks when I went to my first LLL meeting, and I felt huge regret when he got so sick on formula, not tolerating it at all. When the doctor said he might not live to one year old, I felt I had no one to blame but myself.

I didn't know how to deal with his anger at me when my adult son found out that I had not breastfeed him like his brothers, knowing all the health issues he had as a result. (It wasn't

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2010
Tue, 02-07-2012 - 11:33am
What an interesting thread--thanks for posting it.
Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
Tue, 02-07-2012 - 12:18pm

It is certainly and eye-opening thread for me - I have only made it to page 8 so far, I haven't had a lot of time to read it. But I keep coming back to it.

I have been thinking lately that the debate has changed over the years, and I wonder if we have kept up? At the beginnings of this board, there was a lot more women who did chose to use formula from birth, so it was much more of a breastmilk vs. formula type of board.

There was a wide variety of reasons ranging why they were choosing formula -

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2010
Tue, 02-07-2012 - 5:22pm

I do think the debate has changed.

Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
Tue, 02-07-2012 - 5:37pm
jessica765 wrote:

I do think the debate has changed.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2010
Tue, 02-07-2012 - 6:00pm

Hmm.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2008
Wed, 02-08-2012 - 3:26am

I think the idea of formula feeding needs to be part of it. We frequently have discusisons/debates about formula especially when something mroe osensational occurs, such as major recals, contamination, and even deaths resulting from cotnamination. So looking at the various sides of this is important. Even for those of us who have never used formula, we can still talk about how alarming it must be for those who are already using formula, and something has gone wrong - even with the batch they have used.

Many other topics such as what we think we would find easier to manage in our lives and so on, are worthy of discussion.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2008
Wed, 02-08-2012 - 11:01pm

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-21-1998
Wed, 02-08-2012 - 11:24pm

I probably did more with my first child than I would have been willing to do with the 2nd. (There is no 3rd). Mainly, the first child needed it more, being premature, and there was no other child needing attention. OTOH, the second was incredibly easy -- she didn't even lose weight after birth.

How much effort is it worth? I don't know that the question can be answered meaningfully for lack of a yardstick. "I did A, B, C, D, but she only did A & B" doesn't account for circumstances.

Cthulu Crochet

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