Is breastfeeding a lifestyle?
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|Fri, 06-03-2011 - 3:06pm|
I was watching a Youtube video from a young mother of maybe 18-20 years old, who had just quit BF'ing after a month. The reason she stated she quit BF'ing so early was that her baby was wanting to BF all the time and from that she concluded that BF'ing was "lifestyle" that she was not prepared to adopt. Now from my perspective, while mothers typically BF a lot in the early weeks and months, it's not anywhere as much of one's time near what some people perceive. To call it a lifestyle seems to imply that it greatly effects how one lives one life beyond what just having a baby in and of itself does. While I do see BF'ing having an impact in certain ways on one lifestyle, I don't see the impact as so great as to qualify as separate lifestyle. To me this young mother was being very shortsighted and likely was mistakenly assuming that how BF'ing was the first month reflected how it would always be. Had she waited till at least 6 weeks, I suspect she would have had a slightly different perspective. Once the baby is more efficient at BF'ing and such, BF'ing does not dominate the relationship quit the way it does in the early weeks and even then many people overestimate how much of one's time is spent BF'ing. I suspect she is underestimating the amount of effort needed to be a good parent in general and putting to much emphasis on BF'ing effect on her lifestyle. To say that one is not willing to give up a few week/months or even a year to the "breastfeeding lifestyle" sounds sort of selfish given all the health benefits. If BF'ing really did add considerablely more effort and time to the feeding process in the early weeks/months and you had little support from others thus forcing you to do most or all of it by yourself, I could understand better someone deciding that foregoing BF'ing was the best choice for their family.
My questions to you all are as follows:
Do you think breastfeeding is a lifestyle?
Do you think that weaning early completely by choice due to simply not wanting to devote the time needed to BF in the early weeks/months is selfish?