Children Need to See Breastfeeding

Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
Children Need to See Breastfeeding
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Thu, 03-08-2012 - 2:50pm

Ten year old boys and every other age of boy NEEDS to see a baby suckling on a nipple until it becomes BORING. I guarantee you if my 15 year old son was in the room with a nursing mother, he probably wouldn’t even notice it. Just like if someone were eating a peanut butter and jelly sandwich he wouldn’t really care. Or if someone were BREATHING it wouldn’t much draw his attention.

And girls need to see it. They need to see that it’s no big deal, that it’s everywhere, that choosing to breastfeed does not mean fighting with blankets to cover the baby’s head or fighting with restaurant owners (to cover THEIR heads.) They need to see that they would be fully welcomed, supported, even IGNORED by doing what is natural, commonplace, no big deal.

Read more: http://wisewaytribe.wordpress.com/2012/03/07/children-need-to-see-breastfeedin/

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-16-2008
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 11:25am

If you were raised by racist parents, didn’t you have enough decency to try to overcome those absurd prejudices? If you were shown by your father that it’s okay to beat one’s spouse, did you not have enough humanity to re-educate yourself about how to treat others? If you were told that boobies are for men’s pleasure alone, and that breastfeeding is a yucky private thing that no non-slut would ever do in public, don’t you have enough intelligence to detach that asinine idea from its death grip on your psyche and kick it to the curb where it belongs?

Just try. I believe in you.

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Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 11:32am

It makes me wonder what they think will happen if a child SEES a woman nursing??

Will a little child start having sexual thoughts?

Will the child's psyche be abused by the sight of the breastfeeding woman?

Will the child be overwhelmed by the SIGHT of a woman's breast?

Will the child start demanding to see more women breastfeeding?

Will the child wonder if he or she was fed this way?

Will the child ask the parent uncomfortable questions?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-16-2008
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 2:21pm
witch_power wrote:

It makes me wonder what they think will happen if a child SEES a woman nursing??

Will a little child start having sexual thoughts?

Will the child's psyche be abused by the sight of the breastfeeding woman?

Will the child be overwhelmed by the SIGHT of a woman's breast?

Will the child start demanding to see more women breastfeeding?

Will the child wonder if he or she was fed this way?

Will the child ask the parent uncomfortable questions?

My guess is it's the last one. It would be just terrible if a child asked something that might make the parent blush!

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Registered: 04-13-2008
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 6:38pm
cavenyee wrote:

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Registered: 07-15-2007
Thu, 04-05-2012 - 9:11pm
I think kids are naturally curious if they haven't seen it before bit very accepting of a simple answer. I've been nip and had young kids ask me what I'm doing. If the parent doesn't step in I simply say I'm feeding my baby. I've had twenty girls sit down and ask me questions about it in the lounge at Macy's. The parent was not present so I tried to answer as simply as possible. I've had twenty boys stare but hi just ignored it. I think the only thing to make it more normalized is to get as many of us out there as possible to nip. If it happens enough young kids will grow up seeing it and it will be normalized!
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-15-2007
Thu, 04-05-2012 - 9:12pm
Twenty was meant to be TWEEN. Silly autocorrect
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2008
Fri, 04-06-2012 - 1:51am

I had visions of you sitting in the middle of a whole room full of children explaining it to them. lol

Teresa

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Sun, 04-08-2012 - 3:55pm
Some of my best nursing memories are NIP memories. I remember when my first son was about a year old and we were camping for a couple of weeks in the middle if nowhere Arizona & Utah. One day I took all our stuff to the laundromat and it was just me and a bunch of Hopi women in there. We were cordial but quiet until my son got tired and wanted to cuddle, then nurse. All if a sudden I look up and there's all these women just starting at us. I said something like, "I am sorry, am I making you uncomfortable?" and I finally got one of the women to say, "No, that's not it....we've just never seen a white woman feed her baby like we do."
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2008
Sun, 04-08-2012 - 5:52pm

Thanks for sharing.

Teresa

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Registered: 05-20-2008
Wed, 04-11-2012 - 12:22am
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I really bugs me when mothers (or fathers) mentioned the issue of having to explain nursing to their children as a reason why mothers should not nurse in public. I saw someone mention this exact reasoning in as a comment to an article about some celeb mom who was seen nursing in public. Many felt she was wrong in complaining about how NIP might forced to explain BF'ing to her daughter something she felt she shouldn't be forced to do. I just don't understand why some people are so uncomfortable in explaining the fact that breast have a purpose other then simply to arouse men sexually. This women tried to claim she was not anti-BF'ing but I didn't buy it. I think that she and other like her are likely projecting their own issue with BF'ing onto their children. I just don't see how explaining that many mothers use their breasts to feed their babies is going to cause any issue for the child nor do I see it as a concept that they won't be able to easily accept. For young children I suspect they would grasp it easier then older children due to the fact that they don't fully grasp the sexual nature of breast, especially in western countries whereas an older child already going through puberty might already have it imprinted on them that breasts are only sexual objects and thus need to be educated that they also have another use.

I think in some cases that some people think that keeping a child away BF'ing is best in order to respect the space of the BF'ing mom in question. They wrongly assume that the BF'ing mom doesn't want to be seen BF'ing by the child. In some cases when it's someone other then the child's mother who is keeping they child away they may be wrongly assuming the child's mothers wouldn't want the child seeing another mom BF. They themselves may not have an issue but feel they have to respect the assumed wishes of the child's mom.So in the case of your MIL she may have either assumed you wouldn't want the child seeing you BF or that her mother would object without realizing that neither is true.

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