Commitment, or lack thereof...

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Commitment, or lack thereof...
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Tue, 01-08-2008 - 1:56pm

So I just saw something somewhere else (won't specify where, but I bet a few of you will figure it out!) where a woman indicated that she WAS planning on breastfeeding, but now because of a heated debate about it, she doesn't want to anymore.


Ummmmm, are you kidding me?

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Fri, 01-18-2008 - 3:23pm

"So if someone calls another names and tells them they suck,

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Fri, 01-18-2008 - 3:39pm

Weighing in a little late on birth experience here, and replying to this post simply b/c it's easiest ;)


I had a birth plan and a doula.....and my hopes for a natural delivery were shot as soon as it was decided (well, I went along w/ it, but at *NO* time were options, risks, benefits discussed, EVER) that I was going to be induced.


11 hours of pitocin and I "caved" and had the epidural.

 


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Fri, 01-18-2008 - 3:40pm

As someone who never intended to be a mom (broken condom #1...medication interaction with b/c #2 (yes I double checked about my meds and b/c with both my dr and pharmacist...and they were wrong)). It seemed like a whole lot more to think about for those 9 months.

There is so much information and misinformation (wether it be from book, websites or friends) out there. Not only on the bfing topic but on everything. I remember having severe episodes of anxiety in the babystore when just trying to decide what swing would be the best. Now that I have two...getting stressed about everything seems silly, but I literally had never fed a child or changed a diaper. I didn't want or like children. So the issue of feeding never really crossed my mind as a major decision. At about 6 months when my 3rd cbc came back all messed up my doctor made up my mind for me. I came back with an extremely elevated eos count and that was something to be investigated after birth. After consulting with a GI dr. the course and amount of medications were not something that any of us were comfortable with me being on nevermind exposing them to a child. I went without any meds through the pregnancy and started after delivery. So that was one less decision for me to make. I really never thought about the whole feeding thing as a priority I just figured that I would try to bf and if that didn't work out I could go to formula. I can totally get where woman don't make feeding a priority on the list of decisions.

What may seem like a few simple decisions for one may be very overwhelming for someone else.

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Fri, 01-18-2008 - 3:44pm
Thanks to everyone for sharing their birth experiences. I think I'm so on the fence about this b/c giving birth to DD was so easy. I had the pit around 9am, an epi in the afternoon and gave birth to her at 5:30pm. They had to break my water, which royally sucked, but otherwise it was so smooth. No problems at all and she seemed none the worse for wear. Maybe I'm just in denial about the risks of pain meds during birth. ;)
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Fri, 01-18-2008 - 3:56pm
I passed a kidney stone at about 36 weeks pg with my first. I would rather have my arms and legs ripped off before going through that again. I went to labor and delivery a week before because I was peeing blood. They couldn't find out why so they sent me home. I was having pain from my back around to the front but I thought that I had just pulled something. The next week I was standing behind the couch and it started hurting and then I was on the floor in as close to a ball as I could get at 9 months pg. I told my husband we needed to go to the er. He said to try to lie down and see if it would pass. I climbed into the shower to see if the hot water would help. I got out because I had to pee and couldn't. That is when I realized that this was not labor pain. I told him that it was my kidney or bladder and we had to go to the hospital. When we got there they put a cath in and saw that my pee was really cloudy. With that and the blood from the prior week and the fact that they could find no infection they concluded a kidney stone and sent me home with tylenol 3. After about 24 hours and as much fluid as I could get in I finally got out a stone the size of a little bb....How can something that small cause that much pain???? I brought it to my doctor, who didn't believe that anything was wrong with me (I ended up firing him in the delivery room for almost killing Aria, but that is a whole different topic). That was horrible!!!!
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Fri, 01-18-2008 - 4:05pm

I had several kidney stones while I was nursing Josh. One was triangle shape and wedged in the opening of my utretha, causing horrible pain. Even 2 Demerol didn't touch the pain. I ended up using an anti-spasmatic I had from before and that finally helped me get the pain under control to survive moving days with just the kids to help.

It was 3w before I was able to get the lithotripsy done - there was no way this stone was going to move on it's own, despite the drs assurance that it would.

But I remember them asking if it felt like childbirth - no, it felt many times worse, and I had Josh completely natural. Every time I get a tinge of pain over my kidneys, I get scared, because the last time they checked, there were still stones kicking around in my kidneys. Increasing my liquids has been enough so far though...



~*~ Catherine, mom to three grown men - Jason, Michael & Joshua and Granma to Christopher & Leia.


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Fri, 01-18-2008 - 4:16pm

"As someone who never intended to be a mom (broken condom #1...medication interaction with b/c #2 (yes I double checked about my meds and b/c with both my dr and pharmacist...and they were wrong)). It seemed like a whole lot more to think about for those 9 months."


My Magpie is a 'surprise' too ;)

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Fri, 01-18-2008 - 4:22pm

I for one chanted the f word over and over and over until the nurses suggested maybe going natural with an induced labor wasn't such a good idea.


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Fri, 01-18-2008 - 4:23pm

>>I don't quite understand that, though. The majority of what babies do for the first 6 months is eat. How can one not give that priority? I just don't understand....<<

For me there was more importance on what travel system I was going to get and how to coordinate the right diaper bag with the stroller seemed more important. I don't know...I can't explain it...that is just what I was concerned with.

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Fri, 01-18-2008 - 4:31pm
I know many women are like that.
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