Commitment, or lack thereof...

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Commitment, or lack thereof...
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Tue, 01-08-2008 - 1:56pm

So I just saw something somewhere else (won't specify where, but I bet a few of you will figure it out!) where a woman indicated that she WAS planning on breastfeeding, but now because of a heated debate about it, she doesn't want to anymore.


Ummmmm, are you kidding me?

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Tue, 01-22-2008 - 6:39pm

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Tue, 01-22-2008 - 6:52pm

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Sure I see those, the way you word it!

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Tue, 01-22-2008 - 7:16pm

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Tue, 01-22-2008 - 7:26pm

<<"Ezzo encourages detatched parenting... ignoring your baby's cries if they aren't at the right time, putting them in isolation to "train" them to behave, not allowing them to explore normally. "


Just to throw this out there:

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 7:27pm

"Nowhere in the book does it say to ignore your baby crying, no matter how long or when they are crying."

What about the sections on bedtime and naptime? Does he tell what outside limit to set on the crying in your edition? Or does he still just give vague statements about "some" crying?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 8:32pm

*****3. The question isn't whether crying is bad for your baby, but whether blocking all crying is good for him. The answer to this question is no! By persisting with a "block that cry" mindset, a mother loses confidence in her own ablility to make decisions about the child later. Furthermore, there isn't a great amount of difference between blocking a baby's cry by offering food at each whimper, and wearing him or her in a sling all day so the baby won't cry.*******

This, and several other bits that you quoted, seem to me to carry the implication that at least some of a baby's cries SHOULD be ignored and that taking steps to minimise crying (such as wearing a baby) could actually be damaging. Maybe it's not totally explicit but the idea is in there and for many baby/parent combinations it's a $%^&*% dangerous implication.






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Registered: 03-28-2003
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 8:56pm

"This, and several other bits that you quoted, seem to me to carry the implication that at least some of a baby's cries SHOULD be ignored and that taking steps to minimise crying (such as wearing a baby) could actually be damaging. Maybe it's not totally explicit but the idea is in there and for many baby/parent combinations it's a $%^&*% dangerous implication."

What Gary and Anne Marie Ezzo label "blocking the cry" is what is known to others as "responding to the baby's needs". If one wears one's baby, is that "blocking a cry" or meeting the baby's need to be close to the parent?

GE's description of AP feeding has been dubbed "ECBOT" by some who disagree with him. He claims that AP parents feed at Every Cry But Only Then. When actually parents who read the baby have already recognized the early hunger cues (crying is a LATE cue, after the others have been missed) and have fed the baby before she/he NEEDS to cry. Therefore, a cry in THAT baby would be something OTHER than hunger.

A few families do seem to do well with this program, but more seem to have problems getting the baby to fit the program.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 9:04pm

"<<"How about pointing out some of the POSITIVES of FFing?"


Be my guest!

Cathie

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 9:43pm

"No, it's not a cop out at all.

Cathie

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Tue, 01-22-2008 - 10:00pm

"Another friend here, although that whole natural child birth thing, they should just name them pain filled or pain free.

Cathie

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