Commitment, or lack thereof...

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Commitment, or lack thereof...
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Tue, 01-08-2008 - 1:56pm

So I just saw something somewhere else (won't specify where, but I bet a few of you will figure it out!) where a woman indicated that she WAS planning on breastfeeding, but now because of a heated debate about it, she doesn't want to anymore.


Ummmmm, are you kidding me?

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Wed, 01-30-2008 - 6:04am
Actually - no there is not a condition for this in babies under 1.
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Wed, 01-30-2008 - 6:16am
I think you have to be careful here
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Wed, 01-30-2008 - 6:25am

Do you realize that babies that are not quite 1 do not have the brain capacity to "make a choice".

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Wed, 01-30-2008 - 6:36am

Both my babies were on "routines" by 6 months.

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Wed, 01-30-2008 - 6:47am
Even though you have a good head on your shoulders, you did not know any of the background of Ezzo.
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Wed, 01-30-2008 - 8:05am

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While I don't believe that this is true ONLY w/ his schedule, at least he gives a "disclaimer" in the latest editions.>>>

I cannot think of another context where a parent would have to choose between "sleep training" and *breastfeeding*.... can you? Apparently in Ezzo's view, breastfeeding (proper infant nutrition) is "optional", and sleep should be an equal if not superior priority! How exactly does SLEEP *ever* outweigh good nutrition?????

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FYI, I only did this for a few times during the night when DD was 5 wks old (she only used the passy for a very short period of time, when I then discontinued its use). So I don't think your blanket statement is fair.>>>

You did not qualify your own statement with "I only did it for X period of time". And a 5 week old infant should never be given a pacifier in lieu of nursing, the breast should always be offered first. Babies that age should be fed whenever they cue, as often as they cue, and at the FIRST cues, usually long before they start crying. (unless you're child is like mine, who would go from zero to hysterical in 3 seconds flat when she decided she was hungry! LOL) And while YOU may only have used it a few times, how can YOU make the blanket statement that this does NOT happen with any frequency among Babywise parents? Look at what is in the book... the schedule is important, it keeps your baby happy and healthy and gives you some structure to your day. If your baby is HUNGRY (crying inconsolably) before the next feeding, by all means, feed them... BUT... if you can hold them off with a pacifier, are they really "hungry", or did they just want to suck? How is a new mom supposed to know the difference, especially when she has just been warned about the dangers of "snacking" and how it will throw her child off the all-important schedule? (be flexible, but try to get back on the schedule as soon as possible) She is going to be reluctant to interpret her infant's behavior as "hunger" because according to Ezzo, that's a BAD THING if it's not during scheduled times. If the pacifier *WORKS* to keep her baby on the schedule, then why *wouldn't* she do it? It's keeping her baby on schedule, and that's the important thing, isn't it?

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Oddly enough, I hear the same line used by mothers who smoked or drank during their pregnancies. "Oh, I know all the warnings, but me, my friends, my relatives, etc. all smoked/drank and our babies all turned out perfectly healthy!" The MAJORITY of babies whose mothers smoke or drink will turn out "just fine"... that doesn't make it a good idea. (I grew up riding around without a carseat and I was "perfectly healthy", too. Odds are good I could do the same with my kids and they would all be fine, too. Still not a good idea.)

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Did I ever say it did? (and if you were referring to my signature... that was my subtle announcement that I'm expecting again! :-D) And while I don't really follow any one person's books (once bitten, twice shy!)I can say that Dr. Sears' philosophy is worlds away from Ezzo's. I'm guessing you haven't actually read the Sears book? That's the only way I can imagine you would think they were even remotely the same. :-) One says that the parent needs to be in control of everything and the baby must learn to fit into a set schedule... the other says to take your parenting cues from your child and parent the way that suits them best. For SOME babies, that will be co-sleeping or babywearing, but not for others. Ezzo says babies don't know what they need, so parents need to MAKE them do what is best... Sears says that babies absolutely DO know what they need, and that it's the parent's job to be attentive to their cues to know what that is. The AAP states that "cue feeding" (demand feeding) is ALWAYS best for baby, but Ezzo only gives lip-service to it, then turns right around and ridicules "marsupial moms" for offering the breast too often! (double-speak) Sears says "do what fits your baby". Ezzo says "do my method and your baby will fit your own lifestyle better." (that's why he pushes the "sleep through the night" point so hard! Sleeping through the night is not best for the BABY, it's more convenient for the PARENTS.) Ezzo's materials are full of misinformation, false studies, mis-characterization of other methods, double-speak and are surrounded by controversy. Why should a parent have to dig through all of that to find anything "good", when there are dozens of other parenting books that do not contain all these toxic things?

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Wed, 01-30-2008 - 8:38am

"if you can't ascribe the ability to manipulate to a baby you also can't ascribe the ability to know mama died."


Babies develop object permanency between 7-12 months.

Andi


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Wed, 01-30-2008 - 8:43am

 


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Wed, 01-30-2008 - 8:53am

And timeouts for an infant?

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Wed, 01-30-2008 - 9:05am

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