Commitment, or lack thereof...
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| Tue, 01-08-2008 - 1:56pm |
So I just saw something somewhere else (won't specify where, but I bet a few of you will figure it out!) where a woman indicated that she WAS planning on breastfeeding, but now because of a heated debate about it, she doesn't want to anymore.
Ummmmm, are you kidding me?


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If you refer to me, yes my friend and her DD did fine nursing every 4 hours. she has 4 kids and only the one nursed every 4 hours. Know what is the funniest thing? That girl who nursed every 4 hours is the chubbiest of her kids (none of them are *fat* but she has 2 string bean boys and a boy who is a bit more "normal sized" and her girl does have adequate reserves of fat where girls should...hips, buttocks, etc.).
But like I say, i think it makes a huge difference that it was the *baby* that decided this and she evidently didn't decide to nurse every 4 hours b/c she was too tired/lethargic/sleepy and too weak to nurse less often than that. It was b/c she was healthy, full term, well hydrated, etc., and able to drink enough to sustain her 4 hours. LOTS of other babies just *can't* thrive off that *much* milk at a time, and that infrequent nursing.
My own 1st nursed every 20 min. around the clock pretty much for 3 mos. she did this mainly b/c I had such a strong oversupply and letdown that it was like drinking from a firehose and she hated the letdown. She would nurse until the letdown arrived, then pull off and having had a few mouthfuls was satiated enough to not want to brave the firehose again after that for a while...but having only drunk a tiny bit of milk, and all foremilk (not fatty) to begin with, she was hungry again very quickly. With my 2nd who I kept on one side all the time, who eventually *did* get to the fattier hindmilk more, and for whom the letdown was less of an issue partly due to being a tad more mature at birth and partly due to my being proactive about pulling her off to let it pass so she didn't associate negative nursing with the letdown, she would nurse every 1.5-2 hrs or so, which is considered closer to "normal" of BFing babies. ;-)
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Nope! :-) I wore Sandrine. she HATED a stroller. It would have been very non-AP to force her to cry constantly in a stroller given she hated it. I wore Nyssa some too BUT also used a stroller some. She didn't have much preference. That was fine with AP practice b/c it was respecting that she was fine either way. if she had HATED being worn/up close, and loved a stroller, it would basically not be very AP to force her into a snuggly and make her scream during an entire outting if she would have been happy as a clam in a stroller. :-)
The only place AP doesn't come so much into place IMO is in the feeding. Lots of babies *hate* nursing to begin with (often due to powerful letdown, but sometimes due to sore neck or shoulder from delivery, etc.). *Because* of the definite "rewards" (health-wise) of nursing it is, IMO, more our job to make it work than it is to "make" a kid like co-sleeping or babywearing if that is definitely not for them. :-)
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And FWIW if you're all talking about my friend *she* did not schedule her DD to feed every 4 hrs. She couldn't convince her to nurse more often but her previous boy was nursed "on request" (much more frequently than every 4 hrs...he was a "permalatch baby" pretty much ;-)) and her 3rd and 4th children were equally fed "on request". It just so happened her DD requested less often but nursed longer at a time than any of the boys.
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DEFINITELY a baby who is healthy and requests to nurse every 4 hrs and who thrives on it and who is not tired, lethargic, sleepy, weak, and whose mom doesn't dry up after 6 weeks *is* an unusual beast. Not unheard of completely, but very rare.
I personally would worry about a newborn who did not want to nurse after 3 hours had gone by. And I did, if mine ever went past 3 hours. I usually gently woke them to get them to nurse (even if they went back to sleep while nursing). When I say newborn, i pretty much mean in the first 10 days or so, when they seem so tired.
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Ooooh let me take a crack at that. Are you saying "now a dutchspeaker" or something? ;-)
My german is so far away as to be sad. :-(
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<< I wonder if the reason parents are so sleep-deprived when they have a new baby is that we force our bodies into an unnatural pattern of sustained sleep, so that when we ARE wakened in the night, it is much more stressful than a natural, "non-anxious waking" would be? >>
I'm only half joking here, but I wonder if that's part of the reason that our bodies produce the hormones during pregnancy that get us up several times a night to pee or switch positions? I don't know about you but there hasn't been one night since I got pregnant that I haven't gotten up at least once and been wide awake for a short period of time (30-45 minutes) before falling easily back to sleep, and still waking fairly refreshed. (Except
My dad did his PhD in psychology on sleep. They found out (not necessarily he and his buddies, but just psychologists in general) if you never get REM sleep, you eventually basically go crazy. Your body (like it says in the quote you posted) will automatically go into REM sleep earlier if you are deprived one night BUT if psychologists are testing subjects and noting they're going into REM sleep and waking them when they go into REM sleep, they don't end up going into it naturally. it is actually quite bad for the system to never dream. I think that is partly why at the end of pgcy when you're sleeping pretty badly, your dreams can be very vivid...you do a lot of REM sleep compared to the other times b/c you sleep less anyhow than before. ;-)
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