In this day and age, why choose breastfeeding?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-23-2013
In this day and age, why choose breastfeeding?
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Wed, 03-12-2014 - 11:06am

I have known as many women that breast fed as I have those that bottle fed. There is no difference in their children. None are necessarily smarter or healthier or closer to their moms. So why on earth would a woman tie herself down to a baby in this day and age when she doesn't need to?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2011
Sat, 08-23-2014 - 7:56pm

The extremism is what turned me away from the being pro-breastfeeding.

Also, women who would launch an attack on another women who had emotional issues about not wanting to breastfeed.  Just because a woman does not want to breastfeed, or even finds it reprehensible in some way, doesn't give anyone license to attack her. I've seen too many attacks like this from the pro-breastfeeding camp, and I'm tired of it. 

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-14-2014
Mon, 07-14-2014 - 12:26pm

There are so many reasons women would choose to breast feed I understand both sides of it,if it's something you  don't want to do I don't think you should rethink your position on having a baby nor does it make you a bad mother. However,it does rob your child of opportunities for deeper bonding and you of the experience of bonding with him/her. Now,not to say that bottle feeding somehow precludes you from bonding but,breast feeding is simply more intimate and yes it comes with a host of other physical benefits as well. Lots of breast feeding moms will tell you of how they don't have to wash anything or how they don't even have to get out of bed just to feed but,there are down sides too,first i would never breastfeed in bed \ i know how tired i feel at 3 am and if my baby wants to eat i need to be semi alert. I think that if bed sharing is a danger breast feeding in bed at that hour carries the same risk. I hate to say it but, breast feeding moms are harrassed in this country,I want to see that stop in it's tracks to be honest. I don't like it,it bothers me and that is I think one of the biggeset reasons women choose NOT to breastfeed. It's just ridiculous. Another is pumps? I have nothing against pumping breastmilk but I know it is often a horrible experience for the first timers in the world and frankly i found nursing baby directly much better. I will say that even though there is a clear reward system such as in WIC and information about breastfeeding there is entirely too little support and I'm shocked at the stigma and dischord from other women on the issue. I have bottlefed my child and i have nursed him and let me tell you nurising my baby in my experience was the best thing I ever did,it not only gave him a great start but it healed me faster and better than when i bottle fed my first son exclusively but,that is of course my experience. Getting started wasn't easy,finding support was just impossible but,I did it, now women who are less inclined who have no support and no idea how to start will quit quickly.I'm saying i guess that there are so many reasons to CHOOSE breast feeding but like a tattoo many people have them and they mean something different to each person.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-14-2014

I have had a baby about nine months ago,Im 40 and i have a grown son. My attitude towards breastfeeding has evolved. In all my experience with it though,I think that while breastfeeding can and does give babies a great start,and it may indeed be the lesser of  the feeding evils it just isn't fool proof and the prevention of disease? I don't know,I just don't think it does anything to prevent disease. it can maybe lower your risk of getting a disease but to pin the hopes of a disease free life on breastfeeding? That is kind of a tall order and I think a misguided thought.

Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
Wed, 07-09-2014 - 11:53am

So far the studies say breastfeeding can help to prevent both crohns and colitis. Breastmilk is easiest to digest and it encourages a healthy pH in the gut so that good probiotic bacteria can grow, which sets the child up for a healthy digestive system.

Of course there are never any guarantees, but for my children I felt that lowering the risk of our family health issues was important. I would think that the longer you exclusively breastfeed - no formula, no other liquids, no solids - the stronger effect it would have on a child.

As in 3 weeks of exclusive breastfeeding and then adding in the occasional bottle of formula, and early solids would not have as strong effect as 9 months of exclusive breastfeeding. In some cases, moms have gone as long as 18 months to 2 years of exclusive breastfeeing to help combat family health issues, and the child does well.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2011

My nephew has Crohn's disease (has had it since he was a small child) and I sometimes wonder if he had been breastfed (instead of bottle fed) would his disease have developed and progressed the way it did when he was so young??

I don't know much about Crohn's disease, though.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-25-2014

I know this is a late comment by I am new and wandering around the boards.

Why choose breastfeeding? Personal choice, studies, benefits, etc.  I suppose that is why women choose it.  The other side of that is not bad either. As an adopted person who is nearly 50 years old and never had ONE drop of breast milk, I can quite easily say that if you choose not to breastfeed you are not harming your baby. I am healthy, fit, active, smart, etc. I have no different issues than people who were breastfed. 

As a mother, I personally chose to breastfeed and it did not last long. A few months with each. They are now healthy adults with no different issues than others their age who were breastfed longer or not breastfed at all. 

There should be no judgement on women over this. There are all sorts of different circumstances as to why babies might not be breastfed; an ill mother, death of a mother, adoption, choice.  In my case, there was no option since I was adopted. I am fine and so are millions of others.

Either way is fine. Smile

Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010

I used formula with my first son and breastfed the next two, and for me - I saw a big difference in their health and in their closeness to me.

For me, I found breastfeeding much easier and I felt less tied down. I realized that might be different for another mom - but perhaps some of those that you see who do choose breastfeeding do it because they feel it makes a difference, and because it makes them feel less tied down.

Everyone's experience is different, and I am sure many have valid reason for their choices.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-18-2014
Fri, 04-18-2014 - 1:07am
I hated having to wash the bottles, breastfeeding was easier and more convienant, no ice packs for bottles, etc. Meals always ready.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-18-2014
If you mean by breastfeeding, gosh I breastfeed and my daughter is pumping breast and bottle feeding. I call that being tied down to the bottle but I thought breast was easier and I did both, my 3rd didn't latch on. But all women are different. Some prefer the formula because they believe it is more convenient. To each her own. It is what you prefer.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-18-2014
Fri, 04-18-2014 - 12:58am
Amen to that, you do what is best for you and baby.

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