Debate: Don't make them guilty?
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|Thu, 05-12-2011 - 6:21pm|
Every article that gets posted about BFing seems to end in "not making bottlefeeding mothers and those who can't breastfeed feel guilty".
Formula manufacturer marketers must love that line; what a great marketing spin. It effectively closes down any debate, because anyone who continues talking once this has been said is considered to be "attacking new mothers".
Diane Wiessinger wrote, in her article entitled Watch Your Language:
"Let's rephrase, using the words women themselves gave me: "We don't want to make bottlefeeding mothers feel angry. We don't want to make them feel betrayed. We don't want to make them feel cheated."
Peel back the layered implications of "we don't want to make them feel guilty," and you will find a system trying to cover its own tracks. It is not trying to protect her. It is trying to protect itself.
Let's level with mothers, support them when breastfeeding doesn't work, and help them move beyond this inaccurate and ineffective word."
If we keep blaming each other, feeling guilty about talking about the good things about BFing and trying not to think about it until the next piece of research comes out that fills us with regret, betrayal and anger, nothing will get better for anyone. The current beliefs will never change - and our daughters and granddaughters will continue that cycle of "not being able to BF".
So what do you think