Debate: What someone said or did that made you feel bad as a FFer?

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Debate: What someone said or did that made you feel bad as a FFer?
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Tue, 11-02-2010 - 2:12pm

I am hoping some of our lurkers will come out and comment on this. Tell us what the people around you have said or done that made you feel bad for choosing formula (or resorting to formula because your first choice did not work.)

As more and more moms are initiating BFing, at least in the hospital, I think there are more stories coming from the FFing moms. Here's your chance to share your side of the story!

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Registered: 06-04-2004

kevali2010 wrote:
Just as you were asking her a clear, assumption-free question about whether she thinks "the ff mother is wrong," she was asking the OP if the examples she gave were from this board or real life. And it turns out they were here on this board. And that, I believe (Thistle will have to tell me if I'm off base), is her point. "On This Board" you ARE going to find more powerful language about the choice. Out in the real world, encounters with people who proclaim formula to be inferior are, from what I've seen and heard, rare. And they should be rare. Kooks exist in all arenas, but thankfully they are the minority. :-)
Exactly. We're here to get real and to learn about the topic. If this were just like the IRL Parenting Fluffville I spend most of my waking hours in, I doubt I'd still be hanging around here all these years later. Oh, and I would have quit BF or never even started, so there ya go...
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ITA...it's why I wouldn't go to the CBC debate, and if I did I would avoid threads that talked about scheduled C Sections and their inferiority to VBACs. I *know* they are inferior, and after researching the heck out of the subject (way more than I did when I was pg with my first--I never read one thing about C-sections, because I wasn't going to be having one...and God laughed) I still decided to go with the inferior choice. Part of me still regrets it, but it's done, so I'm not going to go somewhere that I will find strong opinions about that choice.
If someone in my real life circle of friends made a comment about my inferior choice to have a SCS she'd be spitting out some teeth (in my imagination--IRL I'd just walk away, lol).

Of course the difference is that birth is a one-time thing for that baby. When you choose formula, you've got to keep going to the store and buying it, so there is more opportunity for the kooks to come out and proclaim themselves Better People. They are out there, no doubt! With all the worrying you're doing about it, you'll find one of those Kooks where you least expect it, like 2 years from now when you *gasp* haven't started potty training yet?!? ;-)

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Registered: 10-22-2009

did you read the post you responded to?

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I agree that you don't always have to look at the negatives in everything, but eventually you have to make decisions about your life.

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".i am quite confident many women are gettin" pertitent information" and I respect and support all women making their own carefully considered, educated choices"

Wow you must live in an area where there is an outstanding network of health care providers because that is most certainly not what I have found over having 5 babies in 3 differnt parts of the country.

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Registered: 10-22-2009

I certainly would not claim that health care providers are the only resource for relevant bf information...in fact, i would probably say it was the least informative in my experience in having four children in four different parts of the country. My midwife who has became oa very good friend for my last baby was fabulous, however. I wish i had her for all four.

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