Debate: What someone said or did that made you feel bad as a FFer?

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Debate: What someone said or did that made you feel bad as a FFer?
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Tue, 11-02-2010 - 2:12pm

I am hoping some of our lurkers will come out and comment on this. Tell us what the people around you have said or done that made you feel bad for choosing formula (or resorting to formula because your first choice did not work.)

As more and more moms are initiating BFing, at least in the hospital, I think there are more stories coming from the FFing moms. Here's your chance to share your side of the story!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-22-2009
lol
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-16-2010
Incorrect...I just find it amusing after all the Borg discussions.

Kevali


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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-22-2009

I have not changed my positon...I acknowledged many mothers do not recieve proper education and many do. I think it is ridiculous to claim b/c a mother has choosen to ff she does not understand the possible risks and is lacking a education. No where did i claim b/c a mother has choosen to ff she is does not understand the possible risks and lacking education . And no where did I claim mothers are not making their own carefully,

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-22-2009
I though i was pretty clear what not WHO i was talking about...however if anyone takes it personally perhaps they need to re-evalute.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-22-2009
To resiste is futile...
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2008
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There are advocates on both sides of the feeding debate who leave much to be desired in terms of how they advocate BF'ing or defend formula. I think though that people tend to remember the bad apples as being more numerous then they they are in reality. I think also that there is some significant disagreement as to what are the best ways to advocate for BF'ing and thus some what formula defenders are calling "bad apples" are really just advocating in a way that while overall effective, does upset some FF'rs. The problem is that there is no effective way to advocate BF'ing that will please everyone or work on ever women. There are some bad advocacy styles and techniques we can all agree are not very effective but there are many others in which it's either quit debatable their efficacy or they upset FF'rs despite being fairly effective. I believe if your goal is to increase overall BF rates and duration then you need to do what works without worrying to much if some FF'rs disagree with your methods. Obviously, some people could care less if BF rates or duration rise or they actively oppose increased BF rates and thus are concerned with effective BF advocacy tactics so complaining about so-called bad seeds is really a cover for being anti-BF advocacy.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-11-2006

Charleen - just to clarify - those "bad apples" haven't been posting here, have they?

IMO, all of the advocates on this board are consistently considerate, logical, and respectful. Most posters have a bad day here or there, but for the vast majority of the time debaters here come off as

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-11-2006

Vague, thinly-veiled statements are really hard to debate.

I agree.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-22-2009
You make some fabulous points...the only thing i could somewhat disagree wiith is this...

"so complaining about so-called bad seeds is really a cover for being anti-BF advocacy. "

I dont think it is complaining or a cover... it is a relevant concern that is is not advocating and it is counter productive. .
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-11-2006

That makes a lot of sense to me.

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