Debate: What's luck got to do with it?

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Debate: What's luck got to do with it?
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Mon, 01-24-2011 - 1:55pm

Reading such comments got me thinking:

"I was lucky enough to breastfeed." - "Not all women are as lucky as me." - "I was lucky enough to breastfeed my son for a year" - "You're so lucky to still be breastfeeding" - "i was lucky to breastfeed for 9 months" - "I was very lucky with breastfeeding."

Do you consider yourself lucky to be able to BF - or to BF for as long as you did?

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Registered: 11-29-2005
Tue, 01-25-2011 - 5:45pm
I've been thinking more about this.
The lucky aspect of my experience is I think as follows: I was lucky to have a generous supply and respond well to the pump; I was lucky to have found an /LC willing to spend the time to help me with latch and also refer me to LLL; I was lucky to have a DH who was so supportive and willing to cosleep; I was lucky that when I got bad advice re BF with meds when I had my kidney stone, I was able to get better advice from another doctor; I was lucky to have a good work situation conducive to W&P; I was lucky to have supportive caregivers who didn't overfeed my baby while I was at work.

 


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Registered: 04-13-2008
Tue, 01-25-2011 - 6:33pm

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Registered: 05-20-2008
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 12:29am

For me it was definitely not about luck. I prepared extensively to BF and while my experience was probably made easier by being lucky to not have any serious issues I couldn't prevent.

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Registered: 06-16-2010
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 10:52am

Kevali


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Registered: 04-22-2005
Thu, 01-27-2011 - 4:04pm

You say that you have been fortunate.





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Registered: 04-13-2008
Thu, 01-27-2011 - 4:44pm

Lucky to me represents something like winning a raffle or a million dollars in the lotto. It is something completely random that drops into your lap, that you cannot anticipate in advance - even f you appreciate the fact after it happens. Being able to breastfeed cannot normally be said to rely on this sort of random luck or chance happening - where some women get the luck, and others miss out on it in a random fashion with nothing anyone could do about how things turned out. Imagine rolling a die on the day your baby was born and if you got a six, you could breastfeed; if you didn't well you would not be 'lucky' enough to breastfeed. That's luck

Fortunate in this case is being grateful for your circumstances in life. I suppose if you really want to twist and stretch it, their is an element of luck in that also, but not to the extent of being completely random. We do have by and large, some control over our own situation and destiny. And for a mother who starts out in life, it is possible to do something about self-education and seeking good support, and carve out a better destiny for yourself. This is not 100% certain, don't get me wrong - I mean, if you have the misfortune to be a victim of an earthquake in Haiti, or something like that, there is a whole lot less you can do for yourself.

Now, no doubt you can appreciate being fortunate, and you can appreciate being lucky. But I hope my ramblings have shown how luck is perceived as a different concept.

Teresa

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 11:51am

LOL, don't worry, you're not rambling.





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Registered: 06-16-2010
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 1:59pm

Kevali


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Registered: 06-16-2010
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 1:59pm
yeah, that's why I like the word "fortunate" better. :-)

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Sun, 01-30-2011 - 5:49pm

What I meant was that I wouldn't say I was lucky to be able to breastfeed (as per Catherine's examples), but I would say I was lucky (I just happen to like the word fortunate better) that I had enough support to go beyond the age where most people would quit. Lucky/fortunate that I had that combination of things that helped me achieve my goals WRT breastfeeding.