Debate: What's luck got to do with it?

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Debate: What's luck got to do with it?
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Mon, 01-24-2011 - 1:55pm

Reading such comments got me thinking:

"I was lucky enough to breastfeed." - "Not all women are as lucky as me." - "I was lucky enough to breastfeed my son for a year" - "You're so lucky to still be breastfeeding" - "i was lucky to breastfeed for 9 months" - "I was very lucky with breastfeeding."

Do you consider yourself lucky to be able to BF - or to BF for as long as you did?

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Registered: 03-29-2010
Tue, 02-01-2011 - 9:32pm
I think when people say things like "I was lucky to breastfeed for 9 months," they might really mean "blessed," or "fortunate."

But, I do think being successful at BFing involves 4 basic things: luck, knowledge, determination and support.

I think how each mom's "recipe" is concocted determines whether or not she'll be successful or not.

So, a mom could have no knowledge, no support, but then get lucky with a perfectly easy baby with a perfect latch, and be successful. (I've seen cases like this on my ECs....) This mom wouldn't necessarily need the "determination" factor, because she just got lucky.

Or, a mom could have a whole lot of bad luck (like, having a baby with tongue tie, as one example), but also have knowledge on what to do about it, and proper support, and still be successful. She might need a little determination.

Or mom could have a tons of determination, a whole lot of bad luck (let's use the tongue-tie example again, and maybe throw in a c/s, a NICU stay, jaundice, etc), no knowledge to know how to fix it and where, and no support, and still not be successful.

Or a mom could have a whole a lot of bad luck, no knowledge and no support, but LOTS of determination to keep going, and figure out ways to get that support and knowledge, and be successful based on sheer will.

I think when people feel bothered and/or insulted by the term "luck" is those who fit my last example. For them, luck doesn't have anything to do with it. But for others, depending on their "recipe" of the 4 things, luck has a lot, or at least some place, to do with being successful at BFing.
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Registered: 06-16-2010
Wed, 02-02-2011 - 12:19pm

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Wed, 02-02-2011 - 2:54pm

LOL!





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Registered: 11-29-2005
Thu, 02-03-2011 - 10:20am
frosted.cupcakes wrote:
I think when people say things like "I was lucky to breastfeed for 9 months," they might really mean "blessed," or "fortunate."

But, I do think being successful at BFing involves 4 basic things: luck, knowledge, determination and support.

I think how each mom's "recipe" is concocted determines whether or not she'll be successful or not.

So, a mom could have no knowledge, no support, but then get lucky with a perfectly easy baby with a perfect latch, and be successful. (I've seen cases like this on my ECs....) This mom wouldn't necessarily need the "determination" factor, because she just got lucky.

Or, a mom could have a whole lot of bad luck (like, having a baby with tongue tie, as one example), but also have knowledge on what to do about it, and proper support, and still be successful. She might need a little determination.

Or mom could have a tons of determination, a whole lot of bad luck (let's use the tongue-tie example again, and maybe throw in a c/s, a NICU stay, jaundice, etc), no knowledge to know how to fix it and where, and no support, and still not be successful.

Or a mom could have a whole a lot of bad luck, no knowledge and no support, but LOTS of determination to keep going, and figure out ways to get that support and knowledge, and be successful based on sheer will.

I think when people feel bothered and/or insulted by the term "luck" is those who fit my last example. For them, luck doesn't have anything to do with it. But for others, depending on their "recipe" of the 4 things, luck has a lot, or at least some place, to do with being successful at BFing.

Very well said!

 


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