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Sun, 07-10-2011 - 12:23pm

Does choice mean, there is no law against it?

Does choice mean, there is no difference, it is just a matter of personal preference?

does choice mean, no one has the right to have an opinion about my choice?

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Registered: 04-13-2008
Sun, 07-10-2011 - 3:42pm
pterodactyl wrote:

Does choice mean, there is no law against it?

I can agree with this bit. Even though FF is not the best for a baby, a mother has the legal right to chose to FF. However, for all of those who would want to BF, I do wish that the information and support was there for them, when they need it, so that FF does not become a fallback position unneccesarily.

Does choice mean, there is no difference, it is just a matter of personal preference?

In some cases, this is all a choice is. When it is BF and FF, definitely not. On the other hand, barring severe reactions, if a mother is FF, then choosing one brand or a different brand of formula falls into that category, as does choosing what sort of bottle or teat she uses.

does choice mean, no one has the right to have an opinion about my choice?

I believe that everyone has a right to an opinion. That does not mean that you go out in public and go up to unsuspecting mothers and criticise them on the spot. This is whether they are BF or FF. We hear from both sides how they havve been treated in public. We often hear that mothers who FF feel they are looked down on, but what is even worse, we also hear of mothers who BF being turfed out of places where they are entitled to be, just because they fed their baby.

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Sun, 07-10-2011 - 8:03pm

I guess what confuses me is, I've never heard of anyone's being prevented from FF'ing, so, of course it is a choice.

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Tue, 07-12-2011 - 2:26am

Does choice mean, there is no law against it?

Yes and no.

"The key to good decision making is not knowledge. It is understanding."
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Wed, 07-13-2011 - 3:25am
pterodactyl wrote:

Does choice mean, there is no law against it?

In the most basic sense of the word, people do have the choice to break the law so in that sense so long as one is physically capable of doing it even if it's illegal then it technically a choice. By as the term is generally used in parenting debates, it generally precludes choices that are illegal. We generally would not say that you have the choice to not use a car seat or give your baby a bit of

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Wed, 07-13-2011 - 5:00pm
In a rtw state it becomes almost impossible for a mom to bf her baby. Alot of moms cannot bf because they are working full time. More real encouragement is needed
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Wed, 07-13-2011 - 7:26pm

More real encouragement is needed.

Your comment reminds me of a recent thread, in which, the differences between "encouragement" and "support" were discussed.

I think we all recognize that what is needed is a cultural commitment to the importance of breastfeeding. That would involve things, such as, putting children's welfare above corporate interests and acknowledging that quality parenting is NOT simply a nuclear family task, it is a community task. The cliche would be: It takes a villlage. Again, from a recent thread, it will require a paradigm shift.

Individual women "trying harder" to breastfeed is not enough. Doctors, employers, legislators, family members, corporations and onlookers must also commit to breastfeeding in order to return breastfeeding to its original status, ie "normal".

"Real" support or encouragement or acceptance IS needed.

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Wed, 07-13-2011 - 10:49pm
While working certainly presents challenges to bfing, and certain jobs are less conducive to pumping, I take exception to your statement that "it becomes almost impossible for a mom to bf her baby." I've been CL on the Working and Pumping board here on iVillage for nearly 4 years, and I've had the pleasure of getting to know many proud Working and Pumping moms.

I do agree that workplace support and cultural encouragement are important. But even without that, it's definitely possible for many women to bf while working (Teresagem, it's time for your W&P war stories, lol!!)

 


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Sat, 07-16-2011 - 5:33am
srprsboy wrote:
In a rtw state it becomes almost impossible for a mom to bf her baby. Alot of moms cannot bf because they are working full time. More real encouragement is needed

Working and Pum ping memories ... here goes

In late 1984, I was pregnant with baby number 2, and also needed to return to work, full time in the demanding profession as a secondary teacher. But fully committed to BF as well.

I had obviously known how to hand express - not very easy for me - and leave a small bottle, when necessary for DD, but she had got to the point where she would refuse it and wait for me anyway, on the rare occasion I left her. But I knew that I would need to pump etc and have this next baby fed every day on pumped milk. So I tentatively asked my doctor if it was even possible, did she know? She told me she had known of a woman who studied full time and pumped for her baby. Knowing that, and that it was actually possible,

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Mon, 07-18-2011 - 10:20am

I think a lot of the people who constantly remind BF advocates and others that it's a choice to BF or FF think that it Imeans the choice to FF should be free from judgement

That is my impression.

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