Did you love breastfeeding?

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Did you love breastfeeding?
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Wed, 12-15-2010 - 4:15pm

I thought I would start this in light of the thread about Danni Minogue loving breastfeeding, and some of the comments there.

Did you love breastfeeding?

What exactly did you love about breastfeeding?

Were there things you did not like about breastfeeding? and what were they?

Did you/do you ever talk about loving breastfeeding?

Do you think there were things that you loved about breastfeeding that others may not like?

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Wed, 12-15-2010 - 5:12pm

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Wed, 12-15-2010 - 7:06pm

Did you love breastfeeding?

yes

What exactly did you love about breastfeeding?

What I love most about BF'ing is the bonding via the breast, the ability to comfort him at my breast, the warm and fuzzies I get from BF'ing, the convenience factor, and the knowledge my child is getting the biologically normal food source. I aso love the enjoyment my DS shows when BF'ing and how it so easily calms him when he is upset.

Were there things you did not like about breastfeeding? and what were they?

There where times in the beginning when I wished I had a longer break between feeds, such during cluster feeds. I did not like the engorgement in the early days.

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Wed, 12-15-2010 - 7:22pm

Did you love breastfeeding?

Yes! Certainly there were times when it drove me crazy, but overall it was always a very gratifying experience for me.

What exactly did you love about breastfeeding?

It was wonderful to see how she was growing coming straight from me. I loved being pregnant, so I think it was at least partly a logical extension of that. It was also that bf helped me to trust my instincts as a mother, and I was far more relaxed as a result. In the beginning, I was sick and weak and there was so little I could do for her. So bf was something that I protected with every ounce of strength I could muster.

Were there things you did not like about breastfeeding? and what were they?

Oh, I wasn't a huge fan of cluster feeding. Until E was about three months old, she nursed for three hours straight in the evening. It sounds like a long nightmare, but really the change was very gradual. At first, I could only eke out about a minute in-between half-hour sessions on each side to go to the bathroom. She might be screaming during that time. Then I got five minutes, then ten minutes. Then she quit nursing as long, and by three or four months she was nursing twice in that period instead of six times. But at that age she was also sleeping so very well at night, at least eight hours at a stretch from 2-4 months. I do believe that my nursing her on-demand made it a lot easier to fill her up before sleeping.

Did you/do you ever talk about loving breastfeeding?

I'm sure I did, because I know I have. I know that lots of people don't love it but I wanted people to see that you can have a bit of a rough start like I did and still have a rewarding experience.

Do you think there were things that you loved about breastfeeding that others may not like?

Sure. If you had a baby with a bad latch, you might have disliked bf much more than I did. My daughter had a perfect latch on my right side and a near-perfect latch on my left side from the outset, which meant that other than the initial pinching pressure on latch on, bf never hurt for me. I bought some lanolin because I thought I was supposed to use it but quit after one use because I just didn't need it, and didn't want to have one more thing I needed to do.




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Wed, 12-15-2010 - 10:47pm


Did you love breastfeeding?

Yes, I do.

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Thu, 12-16-2010 - 9:48am

I absolutely loved breastfeeding.

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Thu, 12-16-2010 - 2:45pm
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Did you love breastfeeding?

Overall, yes.

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Thu, 12-16-2010 - 4:40pm

Did you love breastfeeding?

Sometimes. I have had mixed feelings about it over the years, but in general, they've been more positive than negative.

What exactly did you love about breastfeeding?

What I loved best was that it allowed me to be the kind of mother that I myself needed, and still need. That it forced me to stay with my babies, be their primary caregiver, remain in tune with their bodily and emotional needs, and make other, related choices that were for the common good, like babywearing, co-sleeping, and other attached parenting choices that I am absolutely sure I would have been much less likely to make had I not chosen to BF.

Were there things you did not like about breastfeeding? and what were they?

Primarily, I haven't enjoyed the way it has affected my body. My breasts, always large, grew to ridiculous proportions. I am now in the process of losing weight, and my breasts are reducing in size, which makes me very happy.

I really, truly hated the fact that I leaked and had massive, hard-to-control oversupply for the first six months of each baby's life. There would be times when milk was literally cascading down my sides and soaking whatever I was sitting on. I smelled like sour milk for months, and I couldn't stand to look at myself in the mirror, with these grotesquely large breasts that were always staining every shirt I wore. When the oversupply finally settled down, I felt a lot better and more confident about my body.

And I'll admit that there have been times when I've fallen into the trap of thinking that because I BF, I must be missing out on things that my non-BF counterparts "get to do", which mainly involves leaving the baby with someone else while I go off and do something fun. But then I remember that it's mostly in my head anyway; I don't really *want* to be off doing things away from my babies or nursing toddlers, and even if I did, I'm too much of a homebody (and let's face it, kind of a stick in the mud), to really have anywhere to go for more than a couple of hours.

Did you/do you ever talk about loving breastfeeding?

I'll talk about it if it seems appropriate. LLL meetings are one place where I might share those feelings. But FTMP, the people I associate with (apart from LLL friends) are not BF advocates or even very positive about it as a choice. The ones who do it act like they're shackled to their babies and can't wait for it to be over, and the ones who haven't done it (or who have tried and failed) are very sensitive and take even the smallest expression of positive attitude about BF as a personal affront or insult, so I try not to let myself get into those situations.

Do you think there were things that you loved about breastfeeding that others may not like?

Sure. There are people out there who dislike just about everything I can think of that I do like, so BF shouldn't be any exception.

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Fri, 12-17-2010 - 8:54am

Did you love breastfeeding? This is such a hard question for me to answer. If I had weaned at 12 or 18 months, I would have been able to say yes, but I would have gone through a massive mourning period in order to wean. Now, however, I've gotten to a point where my love of BF is on the decline, and it's harder for me to remember how much I loved it. I don't think 'touched out' really covers what I've been feeling. I'm on my third pregnancy in a row while still nursing DS, and the hormones have me literally shaking with revulsion at times. I want to cry because I miss the sweet bonding feelings I used to get, but I know that these hormones tell me that I'm still pregnant right now, and I'm really hoping to stay that way. I'm also so tired and cranky and wishing I wasn't being woken twice a night.

What exactly did you love about breastfeeding? I remember loving the bonding feeling. I'm the type that never let anyone else hold the baby, and BF definitely helped that. I am still so proud of myself for deciding to try BF and sticking with it as well. I still love feeling like I have a special way of making my child feel secure and loved, and he's so happy when he's nursing. DH is definitely on board with that last comment-he loves how much Brody loves nursing. I also like feeling like I'm part of a sisterhood. My grandma and my mom are very proud of me, too.

Were there things you did not like about breastfeeding? and what were they? I had a hard time in the beginning with latch and privacy issues. The latch issue was ironed out in about two weeks, and the privacy thing-I guess I kind of got over that. I still adhere to my own code of discretion, but as long as I feel I'm being appropriate, I feel fine now. My huge issues are right now, when I'm worried that there is some correlation between my nursing and my miscarriages, and I feel like I wish I could have the freedom to have some fun. I brought Brody everywhere for the first year of his life, and he behaved well. I continued to bring him everywhere during his second year of life, but I got weird looks and he didn't behave very well. Now, I just don't go anywhere. It's an absolute nightmare. If it's earlier in the evening, he throws a fit if I leave him and misbehaves if I take him. If it's later (after his bedtime), it's really late and I'm tired and worried that he's going to wake up and need me when I'm gone. I get resentful of the fact that other moms of two-year-olds are allowed to go places every once in a while. I don't mean I want to go out and get wasted or go on a cruise for a week. I just want to go to dinner with my husband and be able to relax. I just thought of another one. I feel like there have been many times where I couldn't get Brody to stop being fussy and I felt like everyone was looking at me and judging my BF. Either they were thinking that I was trying to force him to BF and I'm a weirdo, or that I was doing it wrong. I don't know if I would have been just as embarrassed if I was FF.

Did you/do you ever talk about loving breastfeeding? I have talked at length, and unsolicited, about my love of BF to anyone I felt might be receptive. Right now I'm just struggling to not ruin it for everyone else by talking about my troubles right now.

Do you think there were things that you loved about breastfeeding that others may not like? I know a lot of moms who don't love being home with and always with their babies. I just really enjoyed that part. I also find it really cute that DS is old enough to ask for it and talk about it and pretend to BF

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