Dissapointed my best friend wont BF (m)
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|Thu, 05-08-2003 - 2:38pm|
We grew up together (since age 5), we were each each others Maid of Honors & even though we live 4 hours away, we have stayed best friends. She is pg w/ her first baby. I just ASSUMED she would BF. Why? well, b/c she is a well educated person w/ no emotional or physical issues that i know of that may preclude her from breast feeding - yet, she wont even TRY it, it seems.
I didnt get crazy about it. I am still nursing (albeit only maybe once a day, if that, my 3 yr 3 month old dd - & she thinks THAT is nutz .... as do many others, lol)- so i WANT to get crazt about it, lol. I just nonchalantly asked her, via email, if she was going to nurse, b/c i wanted to do a nice basket for her shower, & would have included Lanosh, the book "SO That's What They're For", etc. Her answer was "We havent decided yet, but are leaning towards no". So i wrote back "Not that you even have to answer or discuss it, but can i ask why? Some women i work with (I am an L&D RN) dont think they want to either, but when they are given information that maybe they hadnt known, they end up breastfeeding & loving it. I have some info & articles if you are interested". She wrote back, quite curtly "Brian & i have all the research we need & we will make the best decision for US, when the time comes". I wrote back "OK, not another word about it". lol
What i WISH i had done was NOT ask, & just give her the book. Maybe then she would have read it & then she may have at least tried it. I just dont GET why someone WOULDNT at least attempt to give their baby what is the absolute best, healthwise. So we went to her shower & i overheard people asking her & she said she was bottle feeding.
Of course i wouldnt let it affect our relationship or my feelings for her, but i just dont get it! R~