do you/have you been convinced to bre...

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Registered: 10-07-2003
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Fri, 11-07-2003 - 11:30am

do you/have you been convinced to breast feed



  • I am a bf and I try to convince ff to bf
  • I am a ff and bf have tried to convice me to bf
  • what ever I stick to what is right for me.


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Be who you are and say what you feel because those  who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-07-2003 - 11:47am
i didn't vote, because i didn't think the choices fit well.

for one thing, i don't know of anyone who could (or would) possibly convince a woman who was sucessfully ff-ing to re-lactate. i see a woman on a very frequent basis whose ff-ing is not going well (she bf'd her first), and she truly regrets her decision, but i really say nothing except ask how i can help. however, i'd be lying if i told you that i wouldn't want her to re-lactate, i really wish she would. however, it was her decision and she made it (albeit through what i believe was bad advice, and misinformation).

nonetheless, i would like to think that more bf-ing would change the environment and would in turn cause more bf-ing. i really think there is a lack of support (on many levels), and usually just feel sorry for someone whose bf-ing experience didn't work out. i hope they have a more positive experience with another child. in many (not all) cases, i just don't think there is a lot of patience for the process. bf-ing changes monthly, if not weekly, its a dyanamic family relationship. i don't think there's a bf-er out there who will tell you everyday is perfect.

as far as people who don't bother to try, well, i don't really have words for that. personally, i can't imagine feeling my breasts fill with milk that i would deny my child (without a very good reason). sure, ff-ing is a personal decision, but not one made without trade-offs. i guess bf is made with trade-offs too, but i'm more comfortable with those that include my children being fed breastmilk vs a "replicate."

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Registered: 10-07-2003
Fri, 11-07-2003 - 12:35pm
i guess I should have explained my poll a little better. The reason why I made this poll was because I often read from ff'ers on this board that they feel pressure, or find that bf'ers try to convince them to bf. I bf all four of my children, all for a considerable amount of time (the last two are twins) and I feel that I am the type of person that would incourage an expectant mother to bf or at least try. If it doesn't work out for you, at least you tried....yea!!

I think if FF'ers would realize that if an expectant mother wanted their opinon on bf vs ff (especially the ff'ers that have never attempted to bf) they wouldn't say "bf'ing is the best, and that is the way to go" I incourage bf'ing because it was so wonderful to me and I would want all mothers to have the experience that I did. But I wouldn't critisize any mother who after trying figured that it is not something they can do, for whatever reason.

My2Cents

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 11-07-2003 - 8:48pm
What do you pick if you are a bf'er who never convinces a ff'er to bf'ed? The third choice? I'm not sure it fits.

Sherry

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Registered: 10-07-2003
Fri, 11-07-2003 - 9:42pm
I think there was a reason I was being very vague in this poll. I hear ff'ers all the time suggesting that bf'ers (which I am to 4 children) try to convince them to bf. What I wonder most if that is a good choice of word. "convince" or should it be "incourage". I wouldn't try to convince anyone to do something they are not willing to do, however I may incourage it. Especially since it has been the most wonderful thing for me. Why wouldn't I want to share my experiene?

I am not directing this at you....sherry. I am just kinda venting!

Be who you are and say what you feel because those  who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 11-08-2003 - 10:06am
Oh, I get it now! I agree with you regarding encourage vs. convince. I know a lot of bf'ers and I don't know any who go around trying to convince ff'ers. We are all full time moms - how much extra time do we have anyhow, LOL!

Sherry