Does Formula Feeding define you?

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Does Formula Feeding define you?
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Tue, 10-18-2011 - 6:06pm

I was reading a lovely article about a mom who BF till her little one was 4 - and one sentance stuck me:

"They think it defines me in some way; I’m a freak, a hippie, a pushy lactivist. That, or I must be passing judgment on them in some way."

http://www.xojane.com/it-happened-me/it-happened-me-i-breast-fed-my-child-until-she-was-4

It made me think - do they think that formula feeding defines them? Does it make they stuck-up, mainstream, a pushy formulalist (sorry, I was trying to come up with alternative terms! LOL) - are they passing judgement on the BFers in some way? Or is it because they think that formula feeding is "normal" and BFing is the bizarre thing to do?

If you feel that you are doing the best for your child and your family, why is it not possible that a BFing mom, even a full term BFing mom is doing the best for her child and her family?

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Registered: 04-13-2008
Wed, 10-19-2011 - 5:23am
witch_power wrote:

I was reading a lovely article about a mom who BF till her little one was 4 - and one sentance stuck me:

"They think it defines me in some way; I’m a freak, a hippie, a pushy lactivist. That, or I must be passing judgment on them in some way."

http://www.xojane.com/it-happened-me/it-happened-me-i-breast-fed-my-child-until-she-was-4

It made me think - do they think that formula feeding defines them? Does it make they stuck-up, mainstream, a pushy formulalist (sorry, I was trying to come up with alternative terms! LOL) - are they passing judgement on the BFers in some way? Or is it because they think that formula feeding is "normal" and BFing is the bizarre thing to do?

In some people's minds, this last sentence probably does say it. Even if you breastfeed, it is something to do for a little while. Formula feeding is what you will do, or will do eventually. On the support board we do see cases of mothers who are being pressurised to switch to formula, just so family can enjoy their 'right' to give bottles.

If you feel that you are doing the best for your child and your family, why is it not possible that a BFing mom, even a full term BFing mom is doing the best for her child and her family?

Well said. But maybe it is too confronting to acknowledge. so better to judge and categorise instead.

Teresa

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Registered: 05-20-2008
Thu, 10-20-2011 - 3:58am
teresagem wrote:
witch_power wrote:
...Or is it because they think that formula feeding is "normal" and BFing is the bizarre thing to do?

In some people's minds, this last sentence probably does say it. Even if you breastfeed, it is something to do for a little while. Formula feeding is what you will do, or will do eventually. On the support board we do see cases of mothers who are being pressurised to switch to formula, just so family can enjoy their 'right' to give bottles.

I find it strange how some people seem to view BF'ing as something newer and more risky and

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Registered: 03-16-2010
Thu, 10-20-2011 - 2:26pm
witch_power wrote:

I was reading a lovely article about a mom who BF till her little one was 4 - and one sentance stuck me:

"They think it defines me in some way; I’m a freak, a hippie, a pushy lactivist. That, or I must be passing judgment on them in some way."

http://www.xojane.com/it-happened-me/it-happened-me-i-breast-fed-my-child-until-she-was-4

It made me think - do they think that formula feeding defines them? Does it make they stuck-up, mainstream, a pushy formulalist (sorry, I was trying to come up with alternative terms! LOL) - are they passing judgement on the BFers in some way? Or is it because they think that formula feeding is "normal" and BFing is the bizarre thing to do?

Well, she's they one saying "they think" BFing until age 4 "defines" her.