Experience vs book knowledge in the BF vs FF debate
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|Tue, 12-14-2010 - 2:49am|
I have a question for you all. How much do you think personal experience plays into the BF vs FF debate? Do you think that it's of much benefit to have actually successfully BF'd or FF'd (depending on which side your on) or at least mostly BF'd or FF'd?
Can you debate aspects of the debate such low milk supply, extended BF'ing, tandem nursing, EP'ing, etc. without ever having experienced them?
Do you or would you look at those who have no experience with feeding a baby of their own (i.e. not yet a mother) as not being able to fully contribute to the debate? What about fathers or men in general who obviously have no experience with BF'ing (with rare exception), can they offer anything of value to the debate?
Are their aspects of thisledge debate you feel personal experience with is essential or at least very helpful in offering sound argument for or against?
Speaking for myself, I have debated aspects of the debate I have no experience with such a tandem nursing, low milk supply, PPD, benefits of an LC, even though I have not experienced any of those things as of yet. Even before I had my first child, I was participating in the debate and do not feel that my lack of experience hindered me much overall in the debate. I am always careful to point out when I lack personal experience on a subject so as be clear my opinions are only based on stuff I read and heard. Personally, i think personal experience only provides a limited benefit to the debate. There are many things about BF'ing vs FF''ing that are very individual and one's personal experience cannot be extrapolated to the average mother's experience. For example, some mother's try and discount the claim the early bottles can lead to nipple confusion with the fact that their baby had bottles from the first week and never experienced nipple confusion. The reality is though that ever baby will not experience nipple confusion and thus they were simply lucky to have one of those babies and there experience in no ways proves nipple confusions is a myth. Much of this debate is about basic facts and general experiences. One's experience has no relevance as whether formula is risky health-wise as a sample of one is statistical irrelevant. Our experiences can only prove whether something ins 100% true or false. A FF mother with a largely healthy 1 year old only proves that not every baby has lots of health issue on formula during their first year but says nothing about the average FF baby or anything about the possible long term effects of formula on that or any other baby. I do that many participants exhibit an unfair bias, even if unconsciously, against those that lack experience with BF'ing or FF'ing but argue for one or the other side, especially against men who will never experience BF'ing (absent extraordinary circumstances). I remember once in the past on this board their was a newly married women who had yet to even get PG and their was some who didn't seem to understand why she was participating in the debate or what she as a childless women had to offer the debate? While I and many others welcomes her to stick around she did end up leaving, I suspect partly due to the cold reception she got from a few then members on this board.