Extended nursing taken to the extreme?

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Extended nursing taken to the extreme?
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Tue, 11-04-2003 - 10:09am
http://abcnews.go.com/sections/GMA/GoodMorningAmerica/GMA020709Breast_feeding_at_eight.html


I remember hearing about this a while back. This article is from last week. Now I realize extended nursing has been debated recently on this board...I've come to accept that different people have different ideas wrt self weaning. I may not share those ideas, but I can respect them. I compare it to differences in other areas of parenting, like potty training for example. Some parents feel it's best to wait until the child trains himself. Some, like myself, feel once a physical ability to potty train is shown, a little consistant guidance and they're trained in a week.

But 8 years old and nursing? I can't even imagine! From reading the article I genuinely feel the mother thinks it's in the best interest of the child. But IMO, 8 years old is waaaay too old to be nursing! The mother says she thinks it's OK to nurse "right up until the teen years". ((((SHUDDER))))


Edited to fix link and to add that the actual story was from July of 2002 not last week.




Edited 11/4/2003 10:36:14 AM ET by oneproudmama

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Tue, 11-04-2003 - 10:32am
I agree that 8 years old is too old to be nursing. However in third world countries where disease rates are high, I wouldn't necessarily think so. I can't imagine any reason (In the U.S.) why it would be necessary or desirable to breastfeed and 8 yo.Jmo,~Lisa
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Tue, 11-04-2003 - 10:33am
This sort of thing totally grosses me out.

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Tue, 11-04-2003 - 10:37am
"Like gag me with a spoon." LOL!~Lisa
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Tue, 11-04-2003 - 10:39am

I can't imagine this either. Whatever the mother is thinking, I don't understand the reasoning at all. IMO, there is something emotionally wrong with an 8 year old who still needs to nurse at his mother's breast for comfort. Likewise, I'd say there's something emotionally wrong with a mother who feels she cannot deny her

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Tue, 11-04-2003 - 10:39am
i am all for extended nursing but my son just turned 8 yesturday and i cannot see nursing him!!!!!!!!!!!my ob said i could nurse dd till she was 5 if i wanted but i didn't she weaned at 2 and a half i was preg w/ my now 8 yr old ,he also extended nursed till over 2 my mom grew up in a very large poor family in hong kong and drank breastmilk even after she was 5 but it was in a cup and social economic conditions played an important role,, my ob is also chinese so he veiws breastfeeding differently, but that 8 yr old if the mom wants to give him breastmilk should do so in a cup! in our society he is to old to be nursing, and into his teen?????? i don't think so,

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Tue, 11-04-2003 - 11:00am
Could you imagine your teenager coming home from school. Instead of giving him a hug he lifts up your shirt.....AAAHHHHHH!!!! Crap I can't believe I gave my self that visual picture. My son will be 9 next month and he is huge for his age. I see him being at least 6ft at 16yrs old. So the thought is unbelievable. There has to be something more out of it that the mother is recieving, then the bonding time if she really thinks its ok to nurse till teen years. I nursed my all my children past a year. The longest was 18mnths. I was being condemed for nursing that long. I had someone go as far as calling me a child molester. What would it be considered if your child is 15 and still nursing?

Of course I don't want to call anything so horrible, because I know how it feels. But I think I would faint( or throw-up) if I saw that!

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Tue, 11-04-2003 - 11:21am

LMAO!!


Nursing an 8yr old??


~christine~

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Tue, 11-04-2003 - 12:12pm
Totally grosses me out, too!

I may get flamed for this, but the mom is single, and I can't help but think that she's using her son as a substitute for a man in her life. No, not a sexual substitute, but she's using him for comfort and closeness. KWIM? Remember, he said (the son) that he wanted to stop at age 5 and mom said no.

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Tue, 11-04-2003 - 12:21pm
I was thinking more along the lines that she must be the type of person that needs to feel needed. I've known a few mom's that are like this, (my sister being one of them though not wrt nursing). They go to great lengths to make sure they are needed by the child and often have trouble letting go and dealing as the child matures and naturally needs them less. For example, my sister makes sure not to involve DH in any of the bedtime routines for their 2 kids and that's her exuse for never having a girls night out or a day away from the kids. "Oh, they'll never go to sleep for him" or "He could never handle them for the day..." Knowing how my sister is, I see it that she subconciously likes it that way because it fills that desire in her to feel needed. There are tons of other examples of this and she's shown this type of behavior even before she was a mother.

But yes I agree that in this woman's case nursing is definitely filling some need on her end. Especially that she said she doesn't even think there's any milk coming out! That kid would be better off with a plastic pacifier--weird for an 8 year old but definitely not as weird as latching on to his mom's boob at that age just to pacify himself! Ick.

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Tue, 11-04-2003 - 12:27pm
Yes, exactly! He's filling a need for her. I don't see "child led weaning" at all, I see a mom who can't let go. The bf'ing is more for HER benefit than for his.

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