FF'ing by choice: how should BF advocates respond?
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|Wed, 01-19-2011 - 7:39pm|
I seen a lot of disclaimers from BF advocates included in Youtube videos or blog posts where they take pains to point out in addition to recognizing that some moms can't BF for various reasons they also realize that some moms simply don't want to BF and that they are OK with that. Now while I am accept every moms right to choose to FF solely by choice, I have a issue with the idea implying that if someone FF's for reason that I agree with that I am totally OK with that. While I won't harangue someone for FF'ing by choice or suggest they are bad mother, I don't feel comfortable implying that I am completely agree with their choice. As such, I would never say I something like "I realize not all mothers won't to BF and I am completely OK with that." as I feel that would misrepresent my position. They way I would say it would be more along the lines of "I realize that every mothers has the choice to FF for whatever reason and I respect your right to choose to FF purely by choice and I do not advocate taking that choice away even if I might not agree with every FF'ing mothers reason for choosing to FF.". In some instances, such as on a debate bard, I will make it clear when I disagree with a FF'ing mothers reason for choosing formula with the disclaimer that I accept her right to make that choice. In other instances, such as on support board or in many real-life situations outside of the internet., I will choose to refrain from expressing my disagreement on another mothers choice to FF. My question for all of you on this board who advocate and/or support BF'ing and BF'ing mothers is what do you do when it comes to other FF'rs whose reasons for FF'ing you disagree wit? Do you:
A. Either state that while you respect their right to FF by choice for any reason, you disagree that their reasons where good reasons to FF or not say anything at all, depending on the situation?
B. Either always state you "you accept that some moms don't want to BF and you're OK with that" even if that is not how your truly feel in a particular instance or say nothing at all depending on the situation.
C. Always state "you accept that some moms don't want to BF and you're perfectly OK with that" because you really do feel that any reason a moms wishes to FF by choice is a perfectly good reason.
D. Avoid ever saying anything for or against any mom's reason for FF'ing by choice or the idea of FF'ing purely by choice thus trying to avoid criticism from FF'ing defenders while not implying you agree with any or all reasons to FF by choice when you don't.
E. Some other position that does not fit in the above 4.
Please explain why you take the particular approach to this issue that you do?