Grandmother Caught Breastfeeding Her Newborn Grandson

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Grandmother Caught Breastfeeding Her Newborn Grandson
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Wed, 07-11-2012 - 4:16pm

A young new mom walked in on her mother-in-law NURSING her newborn son.

Is it abuse? Is it sexual abuse? What would you do if it happened to you?

Original story: http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2012/07/dear_prudie_i_caught_my_mother_in_law_breast_feeding_my_son_what_do_i_do_.html

Article and comments: http://thestir.cafemom.com/baby/140227/creepy_grandmother_caught_breastfeeding_her?next=11

One comment said: "Mom should call the cops on her husband's mother, have her locked in prison for 20 years, and have her put on the sex offender list forever. If the husband really loves his he will agree to send his mom to prison."

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Registered: 07-11-2006

As long as all the moms are ok with it then there shouldn't be an issue.

ITA. Welcome to the Borg...I mean board!

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Registered: 10-01-2010
MoCyn wrote:

I know I am a relative newbie here bit this one caught my eye.

welcome

Welcome to the debate board. It's wonderful to see you posting here and I hope that you will stick around and post more often.

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Registered: 04-13-2008
MoCyn wrote:

I know I am a relative newbie here bit this one caught my eye.

I agree there should have been an agreement with the grama and the mom of the baby.

Now that said..... I nursed two of my grandchildren with my own children and my oldest nursed her sister.  My DIL needed a break, and it was her first child, and she knew I had nursed the oldest grandchild and asked me for help so she could get some rest.

This is quite interesting.

Of course, if the mother is happy with cross-nursing, then that is fine. In the situation that the original post was about, that was not the case, and it is not acceptable. I also know that maqny people would be squeamish about cross-nursing and not consider it under any circumstances, and I do think that this is the right of the mother to decide.

As was said by someone, in other countries cross nursing isn't a big deal. 

And waht would have been the historical idea as well. 

At one time I was nursing my 2 1/2 yr old, her infant sister, and my first grandchild. As long as all the moms are ok with it then there shouldn't be an issue.

Totally agree. And it would be nice too, if it became something that more people would consider, as it could help in a lot of situations.

MoCyn

 

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Registered: 04-18-2003

Prudie seems to get an awful lot of bizarre breastfeeding letters.  I seem to remember one about a teenager breastfeeding, which by a curious coincidence appeared soon after the infamous Time cover.  Then again, a lot her featured letters seem to come from Letters to Penthouse.  

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Registered: 04-18-2003

The fact that we even have the question of whether it is abuse says a lot about how we view breastfeeding.  I am guessing that many people who had that reaction would describe themselves as pro-breastfeeding, too. 

 

Suppose a grandmother had spanked her toddler grandchild.  Obviously this is not a good analogy as you could make the argument that all spanking is abuse, and some countries have outlawed it.  But, for people who are in favor of spanking, or at least think that parents should have the right to spank their own children, what do you think the reaction would be?  

 

I'm sure most would agree that grandma was out of line for doing it without the parents' permission, but to call it abuse?  Let alone sexual abuse!  Even though you are touching a private part of the body, which many people associate with sex, and even though there are not a few spanking fetishists out there, I have a hard time believing that anyone would suggest grandma be registered as a sex offender.