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Registered: 12-31-1969
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 12:28am

I want  to breastfeed my baby and am due in October.The only reasonI don't wanna breastfeed is bc I don't have a lot of paitience and I am afrai of getting frustrated with my little sweetheart when she is up more then a coupletimes during the night to eat. Any Ideas????

Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
Re: HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 9:06am


Welcome to the debate board. It's wonderful to see you posting here and I hope that you will stick around and post more often.

Congratulations! Is this your first baby? Will you have a partner or relative to help you during the night? There are lots of ways to make night-time feedings easier, but whether you breastfeed or bottle feed, you will have to be waking up in the night to feed your baby - for at least a while.

As a single mom with my youngest, I found breastfeeding was easier, than when I was formula-feeding my first.

One tip that is often mentioned (though it works best if this is your first child) is to sleep when the baby sleeps, during the day s well. Don't worry about the house right now, you need to rest and recuperate. A rested mommy is a more patient mommy.

Oh, another thing I just remembered. If you sleep near your baby, even if baby is next to you, but in the crib, you will sync up your sleep cycles, so that when baby wakes, you will wake up easily. If baby is in another room, and your sleep cycles are not in sync, you could be in deep REM sleep when baby cries, and it will be harder to wake up, and be more frustrating.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2008
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 10:10am
But won't you have to feed the baby during the night whether you breastfeed or bottlefeed? I will agree with the others that breastfeeding during the night is significantly easier than bottlefeeding during the night.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2008
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 10:12am

Another place that is really useful to read old posts specifically rleated to breastfeeding support, or to ask more of your own quesitons now or later is to go to the brreastfeeding support board. There are people on hand to give advice including a certified lactation consultant.


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Registered: 03-16-2010
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 11:54am
shaferb wrote:

I want  to breastfeed my baby and am due in October.The only reasonI don't wanna breastfeed is bc I don't have a lot of paitience and I am afrai of getting frustrated with my little sweetheart when she is up more then a coupletimes during the night to eat. Any Ideas????

Whichever way you feed, you probably are going to have to get up a lot to feed her.  Just know that it will be hard, but it will pass, and in a few months life will get back to something resembling normal. 

Others have suggested lying-down nursing or co-sleeping, which are good suggestions, though they never worked for me.  My preferred strategy was to have a TV show (DVDs or streaming) I was really into, and to just embrace the fact that I had time to myself in the middle of the night to watch it.  The shows that worked best for me were pretty easy-to-follow but full of plot twists and such.  When the baby cried, I'd be like, "Oh, crap I have to get up. . . . But now I get to find out what happens next on Weeds, so that's good at least."  :smileyhappy:

If you can, I encourage you to get real-life support for breastfeeding--for example, a breastfeeding support group and/or a lactation consultant in your area.  Also, just so you know, this particular board is directed toward debating breastfeeding vs. formula feeding, so most of the posts here are not about helping people breastfeed.  (I myself am having to resist the urge to debate some statements others have made in this thread.) 

Good luck to you.

Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 12:26pm

Good for you for holding back - I know that temptation. In the past some have not resisted it, and a new person who thought they were posting a question on a support board went running!  :smileysurprised:

However, if there is anything you really wish you could debate, know that you could always start a new post about that topic. :smileywink:

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Registered: 12-16-2004
Thu, 07-26-2012 - 4:55am

I have zero  patience normally , but with the baby I do. Being frustrated is normal and when that happens just hand the baby over to the father if  you are living together and go and have a shower. If you are a single mum,   put the baby down in the cot, go and sit down , put your hands on your ears and take 10 calming breaths and try again. Yes this is a advice form the Swedish medical board to avoid  parents shaking their baby out of frustration.

The key to successful breastfeeding is not giving up and  have the cot next to the bed ( in Sweden it is rare to have the baby sleeping in a room of its owns, common place is right next to mum and dad in own cot until 1 or 2 years of age.)

Night time,  try not to turn the light on, that wakes you and the baby up too much and  you wont go back to sleep that easily and also remember to burp the baby or neither of you will get any sleep.

My best tip for successfully breastfeeding is getting a laptop or  DVD  and then go and get your favorite show,  old or new that you always wanted to see and every time you breastfeed watch it, that way you will not get bored with any long breastfeeding session.  I am watching Millennium series with Lance Henriksen right now.