Help! having a baby in a week!
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|Sat, 09-06-2003 - 11:11pm|
I am having a c-section next monday (the 15th!) and am experiencing the first time mom jitters. Everyday I get calls from people that tell me how terrible life with a newborn is for the first few months, and how my life will never be the same, etcetcetc. Basically I think these are the types of people that love to complain about things because after they go on and on about how dreadful life with a fussy newborn is I'll ask them if they would rather trade their babies in to have their old lives back and they all say no!
trust me- I'm not an idiot- I have worked with babies all of my life, I know they are very needy and how demanding it is to have a new baby in the house.
Anyway, lately I have been hearing the horror stories about BF. I have been looking forward to BF since the minute I got pg. I read books and have been trying to prepare myself for the changes BF will have on my body and my life, but I am also trying to keep an open mind to things.
So everybook I have says that if BF is done right, you shouldn't have sore nipples. my friends laugh at that. The books say no pacifier for at least 6 weeks, my friends laugh at that too. "there is no such thing as nipple confusion" they say. Of course my plan isn't to supplement with formula, but then my friends tell me that they have all done that when their baby was starving, or when their milk hasn't come in yet, or when they were just too drained or sore to BF. Also the diet- its SO strict! So again, my friends are telling me that they ate chocolate ice cream and had an occasional soda with no adverse effects on BF. Here is another thing- I am having a c-section and the books say not to take narcotics for pain relief because they pass into breastmilk. Two of my friends had C-sections and took percocet without any adverse effect on BF.
I am just so frustrated because the things I have read are all 100% BF all the way.. no formula, no pacifiers, no caffiene, chocolate, etcetc. But I would really love some advice that is a little more laid back. My goal is to have BM be my baby's primary form of nutrition, and to be able to do it successfully. If reading that pacifiers will hurt my success with BF then I don't want to give my baby one. On the same note if supplementing with formula or eating certain foods are bad for BF success I won't want to do that either. But will my baby REALLY suffer if I stick a pacifier in his mouth when he's inconsolable?
I am getting so much contradictory information that I am starting to get annoyed that I wasted all of my time believing what I read about breastfeeding, because the info seems to be almost too strict and a little judgemental.
Can some of you help me out here???? One of my friends told me that books like that are very strict but are done that way on purpose hoping that you'll take MOST, not all, but most of the information in the book and be still be successful at BF.
What do you all think? Can you offer me your advice? What worked for you? What didn't?
I am open to any info you all may have here....
But hurry- I only have a week left! (haha)